Tips for Kissing Lessons
Tips for Kissing: Lessons
One of the most telling statistics that I could find about kissing is that 20% of girls have an orgasm from only lip-to-lip contact! As if that was not enough, the Western Journal of Communication published an article by Kory Ford et al. that showed that increasing the amount of times partners locked lips lowered stress and even cholesterol levels! Therefore we can definitely say that it is a very important form of affection.
This article has tips for kissing that let you be part of that elusive 20%.
Kissing Lessons 101: The Basics
I am sure that you know the basic tips for kissing, but just to recap:
Have good breath (Use small mints to freshen it if you need to).
Start slow (Or don’t!): Most people forget to start slowly and give the woman time to build up her excitement. Therefore you should really give her lots of slow sensuous kisses and build it up to the big finale. Once she is used to that, however, disrupt the pattern by starting with passion, then suddenly lowering the tension with sweet, soft kisses that get harder-and-harder. Keep building up and then dropping the tension until she gets really turned on. This can be a good way to break down the barriers so that she can become orgasmic.
Use the tongue later: Generally one of the biggest mistakes guys make is using their tongue too early or too much. The tongue should be used as an extra ‘boost’ to really send the woman over the edge. Watch as her excitement builds and consider your tongue to be a ‘punctuation mark!
The lips are sensitive: Because of this, guys can have a lot of fun with them. As well as lip-to-lip contact, also try running your tongue across her lips or biting them gently.
What she does is probably what she wants you to do: This is a golden rule for all kinds of sex and one of my most important tips for kissing. Find out what she does most to you and then do that whenever you want to turn her on more.
You are close, so whisper in her ear: The proximity of kissing has another great role, you can move in for the kiss, then at the last moment move slightly to the side and whisper in her ear. This is a great tease and can be used to tell her exactly what you are about to do together to build her anticipation.
Tips for Kissing: Advanced Stuff for Really Good Kissing
What is great about kissing is that it is a sexual act that can be performed in public (Within reason, wink!). With this as its role, it can be used to give your partner a reminder of what you are going to do together later. As always with anything sexual, women love to be surprised. Whenever you are out of sight (Stair cases and lifts are great for this!) take her by surprise with an intensely passionate kiss, then get out the lift as if nothing happened! The contrast should really excite her.
What is really useful about this is that the kiss can be used to disguise some harder foreplay. Because your bodies are pressed tightly together, this can conceal what your hands are doing. Try kissing with your side pressed against the wall, then you can use the cover to touch the breasts, hips or vagina without anyone seeing. If your bottom halves are concealed from view, try dry hump grinding against her. If you have more privacy try some other forms of outercourse.
This kissing lesson should give you the basics. As always, it is important to learn these as guidelines and not set-in-stone techniques. Just have fun and make sure that you keep her excited and she will keep coming back again-and-again.
Outercourse
Outercourse- A Guide to the Outercourse Orgasm
Outercourse is also sometimes known as Non-Penetrative Sex (NPS). It involves almost any sex act that stimulates genitals and does not involve penetration. Because of this diversity some forms carry a very low risk of pregnancy (When you dry hump your girlfriend); to a significant risk (Rubbing genitals together for example). It can be used as anything from foreplay, a large part of the sex act, all the way up to the highlight.
Having Outercourse: Tips for the Outercourse Orgasm
Basically anything that stimulates the genitals in the presence of a partner, outside of penetrative intercourse, is ‘outercourse.’ However there are a couple of common kinds:
- Dry hump grind: This involves one person lying on top of the other and grinding their genitals together through clothing.
- The hand: This often forms part of mutual masturbation, but basically involves the woman’s hand being used to stimulate the penis (Handjob) or the man using his fingers on the woman’s clitoris or G-spot (Fingering). While some people consider it foreplay, it can be used to have a female ejaculation orgasm, so its power should not be underestimated!
- Breast play: There are a number of ways that a man can have an outercourse orgasm (Or give one) using a woman’s breasts. Probably the easiest is to push the breasts together and use lube or lotion to slide his penis between them. This can be made good for the woman too by playing with her nipples, as some women can even have an outercourse orgasm through nipple play alone!
- The legs: There are plenty of areas on a woman’s leg that can be used to act as a ‘vagina.’ The most common is pushing her thighs together (Interfemoral intercourse) and using them. If you do this be careful to use lots of lotion and equally not to ejaculate onto the vagina if you are practicing safe sex. Other parts that are commonly used include the feet (Put her feet together and insert your penis in the gap between them) and the calves (Often with her in doggy style).
- The buttocks: This is sometimes called intergluteal sex. It is different from anal sex as the man pushes the buttocks together and angles his penis up so that it is not inserted into the anus. This can be a good way to prepare a woman for anal sex and can be an exciting alternative thrill.
- The labia: For people who want to experience the thrill of touching genitals without penetration or who want a long kind of foreplay, this can be an effective way. Here you angle the penis so that the shaft rests along the length of the labia. The head should be pointing up or down. The labia should provide enough contact to have an outercourse orgasm.
- Oral sex. Some people consider this to be outercourse.
Outercourse Tips
Outercourse, like most kinds of sex, should be mixed up to keep things from getting boring. Sometimes it can be a great way to show how turned on you are by her or as a way to prolong the sex. Therefore try the ones that interest you out and see which ones add an extra spice to your sex life. Once you know you have yet more tools to make the sex mindblowing.
Dry Hump a Girlfriend: the Dry Hump Grind
Dry Hump your Girlfriend- How to Get the Dry Hump Grind for Non-penetrative Orgasms.
Dry humping is one of the most common forms of foreplay and is a great way to get a woman to experience a different kind of orgasm. Some people are happy just to dry hump and not have sex; others see it as a tease for sex.
What’s a dry hump?
When we define a dry hump, also known as dry humping and dry sex, we have to take into accounts all the different kinds. Usually it involves some clothing between the genitals and that is the definition I am using here. Other people use the word ‘outercourse’ and define a dry hump as a kind of Non-Penetrative Sex (NPS), so even naked people grinding their genitals together is ‘dry.’
Basically this form of foreplay does not usually involve the exchange of bodily fluids. Because of this the risk of pregnancy is almost zero (Sperm can pass through clothing, although it is unlikely). Recently there has been a trend for rubbing genitals together as part of the dry hump and obviously this carries a higher risk of pregnancy/ STD transfer.
The Dry Hump Grind
There are many different types of dry hump and they all have different techniques. Probably the best one is to the dry hump grind. For this, one person lies on top of the other and grinds their hips in a circular motion that keeps contact against the woman’s clitoris for as long as possible. Once you have the hang of this, mix the dry hump grind with pelvic thrusts to keep varying the stimulus and drive her wild! It is possible to dry hump to orgasm this way.
To add an extra thrill to this, place a pillow or a cushion underneath her hips to raise them. This will expose her clitoris more and allow you to grind harder against it. This is a great technique for all kinds of sex and foreplay too!
There is an additional small risks from this kind of dry hump grinding: you can damage your genitals on your zipper. I actually did this when I was younger and it was not funny, it looked like a horror movie down there! Therefore be careful not to dry hump grind for too long and stop if it starts to hurt.
Dry Hump Positions
As this section involves sexual touching and intercourse, it does not fit with the ‘low risk of pregnancy and STD transfer mentioned earlier and should be done with whatever protection you usually use. Of course this should not be done by anyone below the age of consent either as it counts as a ‘sex act.’
- The advanced dry hump grind. Obviously the feel of being touched through clothing is different from the feeling of being touched skin-to-skin, so this can be exploited to give the woman great sex. Start by the dry hump grind against her underwear, then move it aside and dry hump grind against her bare flesh and mix these two together. This foreplay can go on for as long as you like.
- Mix dry humping with sex. For this to work you will need for her to be wearing a skirt. As you dry hump occasionally penetrate her by lifting her skirt, after a short while pull her skirt down and dry hump her. If you keep mixing the two together, this foreplay will keep her hot for as long as you need. Careful that it is not her favorite skirt though as it will get pretty messy.
Simultaneous Orgasm How to
Simultaneous Orgasm- How to Have an Orgasm at the Same Time
You know the scene: the hero of the movie finally gets the girl, usually after enduring a manly hardship or two that he brushes off with distain. They begin to have sex, each one amazed at how awesome the other is. After what the segues assure us is a long time, they finally climax at exactly the same time, falling into each others arms.
Despite what movies teach us, the simultaneous orgasm takes a bit of work to do consistently, mostly because it requires the man and the woman to be able to gauge how turned on the other person is. It also requires trigger control by the guy, as the man has to have enough control over his orgasm to be able to ejaculate at the same time as the woman comes. However the rewards are spectacular as all the energy combines itself to really give an orgasmic rush.
So how do you get the kind of trigger control needed for simultaneous orgasm? Certainly Kegel exercises help, especially if you have it to the point where you can have a male multiple orgasm. However there is another technique that is important.
Basically you have to learn rhythm control. This usually involves a bit of masturbation, so I recommend doing it when you have a girlfriend as masturbating a lot without a girlfriend will probably drive you nuts. This is because this technique can take 4 weeks or longer to get. If you do not have a girlfriend, it is fine to do it anyway, just monitor your state carefully to make sure you are not getting too sexually frustrated.
Firstly you have to understand your arousal. When you have sex, there is a point called the PNR (The ‘point of no return’). This is the point where there is no turning back and you ejaculate whether you want to or not (Doing Kegel exercises can give you the ability to have multiple PNRs). What you need to do is find out exactly where that is.
You will need a lot of lotion too.
Understanding your Level of Excitement for Simultaneous Orgasm
When you start masturbating you will want to bring yourself as close to the PNR as you can without going over it. The first couple of times you will probably go over once or twice, do not worry about it just enjoy the orgasm. Any feelings of frustration or failiure will lead to problems later.
Now practice going right up to a level of excitement just beneath your PNR, then letting yourself relax until you go back to the beginning. This is one round, you will want to try and repeat this 10 times in a session. This will give you the control necessary to be able to orgasm whenever you need to.
Now when you have sex, make sure that you keep below your PNR. If you feel you are reaching this point, simply change to oral sex or fingering until you have time to reset. Another great technique is to use hip grinding (Roll your hips in a circular motion over her clitoris as it gives little stimulation to your penis) to calm yourself down.
Now watch carefully as she comes to orgasm and then use a trigger image just as she comes. A trigger image is anything that turns you on and pushes you into an orgasm. This is the part where really knowing your woman becomes all important, as you will want to know exactly the point at which she orgasms so you can have a simultaneous orgasm. Alternatively you may want to give her a prolonged orgasm and then time your ejaculation with her peak. This is the part where the simultaneous orgasm makes her Earth move!
All these techniques are great, but remember not to turn sex into a technique. It should always remain this great experience that the two of you enjoy and constantly try to do little things to make the experience better and better for both of you.
Pain Free Anal Sex How to
Anal Sex How to- An Introduction to First Time Anal Orgasm.
Anal sex seems to have got something of a bad reputation. Before engaging it is actually worth checking that it is legal in wherever you live as many places still have laws about whether even mutual couples can engage in it or not! Personally I think that any act engaged in by two consenting people receives approval from me, but there is a ‘however’ attached in the case of anal sex which is that neither partner feels bullied into it. Many people can have issues concerning this kind of sex and these should be taken seriously by both partners!
Whenever I give instructions on giving the anal orgasm, I always amaze people when I tell them that it should feel good for her too. Yep, that is right, it should be good for her AND you!
The anus is actually really rich in nerve ending and feels great if stimulated properly, the problem is that women often have preconceived problems with having an anal orgasm. Primarily these fall into two main types of problems:
- Women having had anal sex with a previous partner who hurt her excessively (Intentionally or not).
- Women who believe that it is wrong (Usually due to social or religious beliefs)
Some women simply will never want to have anal sex and that should be respected. If you have a woman who wants to expert this how to guide is for you and her.
Foreplay Before Penetration
In this anal sex how to, I am going to really stress foreplay. You will need as much or more than you would for vaginal foreplay. On top of that, because the anus doesn’t get wet in the same way as the vagina, you will need to use lots of lubrication at all times. In this case you can rarely use too much.
Start off with a little penetration, usually a finger and let her get used to the feeling. It is a different feeling and she may or may not immediately like it. Take it at her pace. I will usually not do anything other than this for the first couple of times as it is easy to go too fast for her and make it hurt too much. Remember the golden rule: calibrate everything to the woman that you are with!
From there you will want to increase the size of the things that you insert, until she is ready to handle your penis. Usually longer and thinner anal sex toys should follow fingering. Then, to make for pain free anal sex, this should be followed by thicker toys such as a butt plug. If she is really tight, you may need to use the butt plug on a number of different occasions. She does not have to worry about her sphincter muscles becoming too loose as, if she has been doing her Kegel exercises properly, this should be safe.
Word of warning here: make sure that anything you insert has a handle/ wide base or you may find yourself with a difficult story to explain in hospital! I personally only use specially designed toys for this very reason.
If you want to learn exactly what toys to use and in what order, I have included a detailed list of a typical progression in my free mini-course that sets out what I recommend.
For people who are starting out, it is best to have her on all fours, with something supporting her torso. Make sure that you take it slowly and give her a safe word, so she can stop it at any time if it is too uncomfortable.
Anal Orgasm How to
Not many people realize this, but it is possible to have anal orgasms. The most likely explanation for them is that a lot of places (Such as the G-spot and the AFE) are separated by only a thin membrane from the anus. Therefore you should start foreplay on her vagina first in a similar way to the female ejaculation orgasm, focusing on these spots. If she has swelling, that indicate that she is turned-on enough to give her an anal orgasm. Once you get really flashy, an anal squirting orgasm is possible!
Female Ejaculation Orgasm Squirt
The Female Ejaculation Orgasm and Squirt
A common misconception by a lot of people (I for one have been told this ‘fact’ at numerous seminars about sex) is that the female ejaculation orgasm is a new thing that only our modern and enlightened times know anything about. In fact that is complete nonsense, the Indians (See their erotic temples and Kama Sutra) have known about it for centuries. And in an ironic twist of fate, some scholars are accepting that the ‘fountain ready to burst’ in the biblical Song of Solomon is a reference to the female ejaculation orgasm. Even the grand old days of the 1920′s our grandfathers were doing the Charleston and reading books that talked freely about this kind of orgasm.
Where I think a lot of guys go wrong is that they get confused between the first time it was recorded in medical literature. It’s first wide scale study was by the legendary Grafenberg who released numerous studies of women in orgasm (The G-spot is in fact an abbreviation for Grafenberg-spot, now THAT is fame!!!) and was the first to use the term ‘gushing’ orgasms. Unfortunately for women everywhere the influential Masters and Johnson (Writers of sexual research) rubbished his beliefs and it was not until 1998 that is was fully studied in a medical publication.
How to Achieve Female Ejaculation Orgasm
In my experience all women can have a female ejaculation orgasm, but it take varying degrees of preparation. The Kegel exercises become very important during this kind of sex as she will need to push out with them to help her female orgasm squirt. This pushing out can sometimes be tough for women as they mistaken think it is pee that is coming out, so you will have to do a bit of convincing to enable her to let go. Once she has the feeling, she will find becoming orgasmic again easier and easier.
The second thing is that the female ejaculation orgasm can be caused by both clitoral and G-spot stimulation. By far the easiest way to give her one is by the G-spot. We are going to describe that one in this article, so once you learn this technique do a similar thing to give her the clitoral squirting orgasm.
First get her turned-on with a good mood and lots of foreplay. What you are trying to do is to turn her on enough that the inside of her vagina feels engorged to the touch. Now you will focus on the G-spot. You will want to use the middle and ring fingers on the G-spot and the index and pinkie on her vulva for support. Make sure your nails are trimmed too, they should be short enough to scrape your lip with them and not feel anything.
Also you cannot use too much lubricant if you are trying to do this, so you will want to coat your fingers in it. Then use the same motion you would use to beckon someone forward. You should feel an area that is slightly different in texture (A bit ‘rougher’) than the surrounding tissue this is the G-spot. At first make your motions slow and continuous, only increasing speed as she gets more and more excited and the size of the G-spot increases. At this point you will want to add in some muscular flexes of your bicep to allow your arm to help in the build-up.
Because the female ejaculation orgasm squirt is released from the urethra, it will feel like she is going to pee (The urethra also releases urine!). This is why it is important that you framed everything correctly earlier, as if she holds back the orgasm won’t happen. If she releases it will squirt out and she will feel an intense release.
If she is really excited or holding back a little it is possible for the orgasm and the female ejaculation to happen independently of each other. This can lead to a really interesting experience for her as both types of orgasms are different. Either way she will be happy!
How To Orgasms
How to Orgasms: Ten Tops Tips for Making Her Orgasm
Orgasms are really not as difficult as most people think. Honestly! In fact with a bit of help from you she can have the sort of sex she really wants. To help you become the first man in her life to completely understand her, we present this guide to the ten top things ever man should do to give his woman the best orgasms of her life. This guide has been checked with enough women to make sure that it is 100% correct. We call this guide ‘How To: Orgasms’.
1. Using the right fingers on her body. This is a common mistake a lot of guys make. Most guys use the index and middle fingers to stimulate the G-spot. Don’t be one of those guys! The girls complained about how much it hurt as his knuckles hit her vulva and it is really hard for us guys to control our fingers. Far better is to use the middle and ring fingers, this gives you more stabilization (By bracing the fingers you are not using against her vulva) and allows you to use the full power of your arm and massive orgasms.
2. Learn the fine art of talking dirty. Guess what, it is as cringe-worthy to her as it is to you (Unless she is foreign in which case you can say anything in a confident voice and it will probably turn her on!). The secret to talking dirty is to calibrate it to her. Try a few different things and she what she responds to. Sometimes try saying really dirty things; other times gentle, but sexual things. Make sure that these occur at the peak of her excitement to push her over the edge. Once you know what she likes to hear, mix it up. Which leads me onto the most important point…
3. Being unpredictable. When I give anyone the ‘How to: Orgasms’ tips, I always stress that this is the most important point. Women always hate men who are predictable! Imagine if someone brought you a cake everyday. The first day you’d probably be really happy and surprised, after a couple of days there would be no novelty any more and it would stop having any emotional response from you at all. Sex is the same! So occasionally blow her curcuits by doing something completely unexpected. Jump on her in the kitchen; have sex softly one day and really animally the next; begin foreplay in the club. Basically really keep her guessing and her body will respond.
4. Blow her mind with orgasm after orgasm (Occasionally). One mistake a lot of guys make when they first learn this stuff is that they get carried away. They go for prolonged orgasms, squirting orgasms and at least 3-4 orgasms every single session. You don’t need this ‘How to: Orgasms’ guide to tell you that this can blow her curcuits. Eventually sex with you will become a massive ordeal. Far better is to mix it up (Spot the pattern yet?) an d give her occasional wild sexual experiences. Keep her guessing and then when she thinks she has worked it out, change it again!
5. Do those Kegel exercises. Yeah, I know, you sometimes forget to do them and you don’t think they are important. Actually they are very important. If you want to have multiple male orgasms: do them! If she has never had an orgasm and needs help becoming orgasmic: do them! In fact you should be doing them anyway, as Kegel exercises have been proven to offer numerous health benefits in addition to increased sexual function.
6. Every part of her body is erogenous. This is one of the most amazing things about women, their entire body is one massive sexual zone and places that do nothing for us feel really great for her. Case in point is the spine. Try rubbing hands covered in lotion up her back as she comes to orgasm and thank me later! There are so many of them I wrote a book about them all, so have fun expertimenting and seeing what you can find out.
7. The anus is not necessarily a no-go area. As most people are surprised to find out, anal stimulation should not necessarily be painful for the woman. The key is doing it properly. Considering that a full chapter of my first book was dedicated to this topic and this ‘How to: Orgasms’ guide is not long enough to delve deeply into the subject, it should not surprise anyone that most guys get it wrong and end up hurting their girls. Think of the anus like the vagina in that it needs a special kind of foreplay to prepare it properly. Therefore respect her boundaries and only go as far as she feel comfortable. That may be anal stimulation, light penetration (A finger or small sex toy) or even full penetration. If you get it right there are even anal orgasms!
8. The guy should not always be the one initiating sex. This ‘How to: Orgasms’ guide would not be complete if I told you that it should always be the guy that initiates the sex. Let her do it sometimes and reward her by giving her passionate sex. This may sound like a minor problem, but it always helps for you to remember that sex is mutual, not for only one partners benefit. It also means that you will get more sex into the bargain!
9. Dressing up does not just have to involve kinky costumes. Whenever I give couples the ‘How to: Orgasms’ guide I always notice that this is a problem… simply put couples have learned to associate dressing up with role play and things like nurses outfits! This is only part (Although a very fun part!) of the whole thing. In fact it can be more simple than that, change your image often. It does not have to be much simply changing your hair or your clothes (Try a more formal suit or less formal rough-and-rugged look) you can give both of you some serious release and great orgasms just naturally follow.
10. Follow Her Cues. Most women are trying to guide you to the spots that feel good a lot of the time. Ever noticed that your girl moves her hips around? She is probably trying to guide you to to spot that feels really good for her. Does she touch a place regularly with her hand? You should probably be touching her there in a similar way. Look for these kinds of subtle cues and you will be amazed at how much she is trying to tell you.
The most important part is that by reading things like Complete Orgasm Guide and ‘How to: Orgasms’ you are already on your way to giving her the best sex of her life. Therefore be happy, as just by taking an interest you are better than a lot of men out there.
Becoming Orgasmic
Becoming Orgasmic: A Guide for When Your Girl Can’t Come
As most people know the female orgasm statistics make for surprising reading: 12 percent of women claim to have never had an orgasm in their entire lives; 75% have never orgasmed during penetrative intercourse. Notice a correlation? Yep, that’s right! Most women don’t orgasm during sex, but during the foreplay. Most guys know this of course, however what is not being said is also important: why do so few women orgasm during sex?
One key reason is that a lot of guys (And their women too!) get confused, thinking that all sex positions are created equally. The truth is they are not! Face-to-face positions tend to stimulate the clitoris, whereas rear-entry (Think doggy-style!) positions generally hit the G-spot. Others can hit other spots too. Therefore if your woman can’t come, simply making sure that both the foreplay and the sex positions target the same spot will help her in becoming orgasmic.
If your girl is up for it, it is a good idea to let you watch her masturbate, this will tell you exactly how she likes to be touched and that is one of the keys to becoming orgasmic: being in sync with her. Sex toys help too in the short term, however it is always better in the long term to make her orgasm with your body as it links her pleasure and the experience of becoming orgasmic to the two of you together, instead of to the toy.
External Factors
There are often external factors to be sorted out. This is when relationship management becomes all important. If your relationship is lacking, the emotional connection that leads to great orgasms will also be absent and there is no hope of her becoming orgasmic. Therefore it is probably best to go back to the basics and work on making sure that whatever kind of relationship you have is as strong as possible, whether you are sex friends or in a relationship.
While we are on the subject of talking, this is vital! Make sure that you make it okay for her to show you want turns her on. Never judge her for anything sexual. She needs to know that both of you are working together towards her becoming orgasmic. As I often say in my books, guys need to make sure that they are neither the ‘nice guy’ during sex (Who can only handle the emotional part) or the bad-boy (Who only has the physical side covered). The key to her becoming orgasmic is for you to get both roles handled!
Of course, the emotional problems may have nothing to do with you, which is why I often tell guys not to beat themselves up if their woman can’t come, as often it has nothing to do with them at all. If she has massive amounts of stress at work or is upset about something, she may not have the emotional resources to orgasm with you or she may need something else from sex other than an orgasm (Such as emotional release).
Of course, lifestyle is also important. A slim woman is great, but some women go too far and damage their health in the quest for the perfect figure. This is where emotional reassurance comes in handy, you can kill two birds with one stone if you let her know she is sexually attractive without going unhealthily thin. If her diet is terrible, she becoming orgasmic is impossible as her body would rather conserve energy. Similarly if she is barely awake or sick an orgasm is almost out of the question.
What She Can Do to Help Herself in Becoming Orgasmic
Women can do a lot of things by themselves to give themselves a higher chance of becoming orgasmic with their partner. When a woman can’t come, it is often due to not knowing her body well enough. It is okay to encourage your girl to experiment by herself: it does not have to involve masturbation, but it helps if she knows what feels good. You can add some intimacy to this, by interlinking your fingers with hers and letting her show you how she likes to be touched the next time you are together.
When she touches herself or you touch her, certain images will flash through her mind as she is about to orgasm, these help her come. These are called trigger images, some can be simple, others complicated (See Nancy Friday’s book My Secret Garden if you would like to learn how complex they can get!). She needs to also concentrate on those (Or even share them with you!) to help her in becoming orgasmic.
Kegel exercises are also vital, so if she does not perform them, they come highly recommended. They not only will be a huge help in becoming orgasmic, but will also allow her to prolong orgasm.
Conclusion
Helping a woman in becoming orgasmic can seem tough at first, but actually it is pretty simple. With these techniques you can explore a world of great sex together and enjoy the great bond that awesome sex creates.
Exercises Kegel
Kegel Exercises and Male Kegel Technique
When I first came across Kegel exercises I was a little skeptical. One of my friends was telling me that doing these exercises would give me stronger orgasms and allow me to have more than one orgasm. I guess that I did not believe that one exercise could do all that, but in this case the hype is partly true they are one technique out of many that allow men to have multiple male orgasms and stronger erections and for women to prolong orgasm.
Do not get me wrong, Kegel exercises are great for these purposes, but they are far from the only techniques out there for achieving these goals. Make this one of the many different techniques you practice and soon both of you will last longer and be experiencing multiple orgasms.
The Male Kegel
The easiest way to perform a male Kegel exercise is to imagine that you are peeing and that you are trying to stop the flow of urine. A pleasant image I’m sure! When you try and stop the flow, you should feel a muscle contract that closes off the opening at the tip of your penis. That muscle is called the pubococcygeus muscle (Also erroneously called the ‘Kegel muscle’) and it is the muscle that you want to use Kegel exercises to strengthen.
At first just get used to trying to close the hole at the tip of your penis, as you get used to that do the same exercise, but focus on really tensing at the point of closure. Hold this tension for as long as you can and release. At first you will probably not be able to hold it for very long, with practice you will be able to hold it much longer. This is what you will do when you are about to orgasm during sex, really squeeze to prevent ejaculation.
The Female Kegel
Women have the added advantage that Kegel exercises have a host of additional health benefits as well as sexual ones. The exercise should be performed in a similar way to male Kegel exercises, with the emphasis on squeezing the muscles together for as long as possible.
When you approach orgasm, you can squeeze the muscles as tightly as possible and it will extend your orgasm. It is this way that you can achieve the continuous orgasm. By doing the opposite and pushing it, it can help you to have a squirting orgasm. In addition you can relax or squeeze on the penis to give you control over your orgasm during penetration.
There are also a number of devices designed to help you to strengthen your Kegel technique as it is just so beneficial for women. The most common is the vaginal barbell that is a steel device that is squeezed the help strengthen the muscles. These devices can look something like dildos, so it is hardly surprising that they are often used for that purpose!
With a little practice by both of you, you can increase your pleasure dramatically. Soon a new world of experiences awaits, it will certainly make all the practice worth it.
Multiple Male Orgasm
Myth-busting the Multiple Male Orgasm
One myth that has recently been well and truly busted is that men are not multi-orgasmic. One of the reasons for this belief is that men are only really ‘designed’ to deposit sperm and anything that delays that is unproductive.
In short, thank goodness that belief has gone!
We now live in more enlightened times where we can see that sex also has a role in bonding us together. Therefore male multiple orgasms make a lot more sense in that context.
As a result of this, the best way to achieve multiple orgasm is to be in as relaxed and intimate environment as possible and then get each other as excited as you can. Generally orgasms from a lot of foreplay are the easiest to control.
There is a key body part involved in achieving multiple orgasms in men and it is the testicles.
The Testicles Role in Multiple Male Orgasm
The testicles are important because by pulling them down or lifting them up, you or your partner can control your orgasm.
There are two basic ways stop your orgasm:
* The most simple is to perform as many Kegel exercises as possible and then as you are about to orgasm, concentrate all your energy on squeezing as hard as possible. If you have practiced these exercises enough, you should be able to squeeze through the orgasm and achieve multiple orgasm.
* The other one is to get your partner to pull your testicles gently down. Obviously it will be very important that you communicate at all times as it can easily cease being pleasurable and start to get very uncomfortable. This also raises the additional problem that you will need them to be in a suitable position to touch your testicles. Therefore this technique is usually best done during oral sex or mutual masturbation.
Once this first orgasm has been achieved it should continue to go on. Your partner should now occasionally stroke your penis or stimulate your prostrate to keep you going up into the world of orgasmic bliss.
Using the Perineum and Prostrate to Achieve Multiple Orgasm
For those that don’t know, the perineum is the part halfway between your scrotum and your anus. If you feel around there you should find a part that feels like a tube, that you can put pressure on. By carefully pressing here during orgasm, you should be able to delay orgasm. Honestly I recommend that this is only done occasionally as excessive, repeated use of this technique has been linked with extensive damage to this important part of the body.
Similarly the prostrate has similar risks attached to it, so make sure that she knows your safe words, so that you can stop the stimulation if it gets too painful. However the prostrate is linked with some of the most intense multiple orgasms! Because of this risk, many people use a dildo designed to stimulate the prostrate, such as the Aneros, which can also be easily removed in case of emergency.
Conclusion:Achieving Multiple Male Orgasm
The most important thing is that you and your partner remember that this is a process and that multiple orgasms are not as important as other things. However with some fun experimenting together, you can soon be having the wild, multiple orgasms that people used to think were impossible!
*There is also information on this site about female prolonged orgasm.
