Are The Clitoris and G-spot the Same Thing?
Are the Clitoris and G-spot the Same Thing? An Investigation Into Sexual Anatomy
When you read pretty much any material about having great sex, there will be a lot of discussion about the two major zones that make women orgasm. The first is the small area of flesh found externally called the clitoris (I have included a guide with images that explains how to find the clitoris if you don’t know already). The clitoris orgasm is usually the one most familiar to women as those that masturbate are most likely to give themselves this kind of orgasm. The other kind of orgasm is the G-spot orgasm. This one involves penetration of the vagina and gentle stroking of the sensitive area behind the pubic bone (Usually using the fingers in a ‘come here’ motion).
Everyone knows about these two main types of orgasm, right? In fact the terms g-spot orgasm and clitoris orgasm have come to represent everything about great sex (There are in fact many other kinds which I covered in my article about how to make a woman have an orgasm).
The New Research on the G-spot and Clitoris
Most women will tell you that the two types of orgasm feel very different. This is very important as it lead generations of researchers to the conclusion that they must therefore be different female erogenous zones. Recent research coming from Australia is showing that this belief is in fact the wrong belief.
William Masters and Virginia Johnson (The same couple who wrote the famous sex text the Human Sexual Response) are believed to be the first to discover that a lot of the clitoris was actually concealed and extended within the labia. There findings went virtually unknown outside the sex industry, who have always taken these kind of matters more seriously (Wink!). It wasn’t until 2006 that the use of more sophisticated MRI-technology showed that, according to the lead researcher Dr O’Connell “the vaginal wall is, in fact, the clitoris.
However Dr. O’Connell does not stop there. Using the technology, she traced the length of the clitoris all the way up to the uterus. It then appears to wrap around the uterus. The implications for this are huge: it means that every orgasm from urethral orgasms to penetrative orgasms all come from the clitoris. It also means that length-wise the clitoris is a similar length to the penis! No wonder orgasms feel so great for women!
Should These Two Erogenous Zones Be Treated Differently?
All of this raises the strange question of whether the g-spot orgasm actually exists or whether it is simply another kind of clitoral orgasm. The honest answer is a bit of both. Scientifically and anatomically they are both the same and should be treated as such. There is another way to look at it of course and that is the sexual definition. As the two areas require different techniques to stimulate and result in sensations that feel different to each other (Likely due to the amount of clitoris that is stimulated) they should be treated as different zones when we talk about sexual techniques.
Female Orgasms
Female Orgasms: Sex and the Climax
Female orgasms are one of the most amazing things that people can experience, yet realistically we know very little about them. Scientists are yet to even universally agree on a definition for what female orgasms are (This may change soon as there is growing evidence that the frequency of muscular contraction in the vagina defines a female orgasm!). There are, however, some universals.
In the first stage of the process as the woman gets more excited, the clitoris becomes erect and slowly begins to move under the hood (The hood is the triangular region of flesh above the boxed area in this picture of how to find the clitoris). This can make stimulation a little difficult for some women, which is why many guys find G-spot orgasms easier than clitoral orgasms.
One key thing that tells you when she is about to orgasm is the next stage. The inside of her vagina will contact (For want of a better image the vagina opens up and contract similar to if it were breathing!). In some women this will only be a small motion in some it can be a huge motion. These contracts are a tell-tale sign that she is coming up to orgasm, so whatever you are doing, keep doing it!
A little before the female orgasms, the vagina suddenly tightens. This can be a great feeling if you are trying for a penetrative orgasm. It should not close so tightly it hurts, so do not worry! If there are any guys out there who wonder if their woman fakes it, the muscular contraction mentioned above are impossible to fake so are a definite sign that she is having a real one (Another is the flush that women get following a real orgasm).
During female orgasms, most women experience a swelling in the nipples. They may become so swollen that it hurts to touch them at this point, so be careful! The fleshy part of the breast is usually a safer place to touch at this point.
What now happens is that all the muscles in the uterus, anus, vagina and pelvic muscles contract. The pelvic muscles are the same ones I recommended men and women practiced in my Kegel exercises article and is one of the reasons why these exercises are so important. As a female orgasms the sensation usually lasts a lot longer than those of the guys they are having sex with (One of many problems that makes simultaneous orgasm so tricky).This should come as no surprise, especially considering that women are capable of prolonged orgasm.
How Orgasm Changes a Woman’s Thinking
We have the guys at the University of Groningen to thank for most of this research. The most prominent researcher was Gert Holstege, the professor of Neuro-anatomy at the university. He is famous for his quote in the famous journal New Scientist that “at the moment of orgasm, women do not have any emotional feelings.”
What he means by this was that his research showed that many areas of the brain switch off during orgasm leading to a trance-like or euphoric state. This is one of the reasons why in some women orgasms can cause the body to shut down (The not walking mentioned above!). The first areas to switch off are those associated with anxiety and alertness. The only areas that stay active are those associated with movement (The cerebellum for the science fans!). This means that there is now scientific proof “that deactivation, letting go of all fear and anxiety, might be the most important thing, even necessary, to have an orgasm.“
Vagina Types
Different Vagina Types Orgasm Guide for Guys
Before we see a real woman naked for the first time, most guys have an unrealistic view of what a naked woman looks like. This view is partly due to the airbrushed images that most of us were first exposed to and partly due to the scientific texts that our parents taught (Or did not teach in some cases!) us about sex with. We come to imagine that there are not many different vagina types and that the female vagina will be the smooth, perfect shapes of flesh that we see in medical text books and the like. In fact the opposite is often true and when we first start having sex, we quickly realize that within the basic anatomy are many different vagina types.
You may be thinking ‘so what?’ about now. However there are a number of reasons why guys should care. These basically come down to two different categories:
- Physically. Her vaginal anatomy may give you huge advantages or disadvantages when trying to give her an orgasm, so knowing the different vagina types will really help when you give her an orgasm.
- Psychology. She may feel sensitive about her body and not let you give her oral sex or even allow fingering if she is convinced her genitals are ugly.
Why Vagina Types and Their Physical Differences are Important to Guys
The first is that some women have a more exposed clitoris. Usually 75% of the length of the clitoris is internal, but occasionally it can be less than that or more than that. An exposed clitoris is usually easier to stimulate and this vagina type makes it great for you. On the other side a clitoris with a clitoral hood (The triangle of skin just above the clitoris in this picture) that is longer than the clitoris requires you to either open her legs wide to get access or use a sex toy to vibrate through her clitoral hood (These vagina types can be altered using a clitoris pump to enlarge it).
The second is that the inner labia can often be longer than the outer labia, leading to the flower-shaped look that spawned generations of awful poetry! This actually has very little effect on oral sex, but it can make fingering a little more difficult as the guy wants to be careful not to push the labia minor (The ‘internal’ labia) inside the vagina during fingering, as it may hurt.
Psychological Differences with Vagina Types
I did not realize how many women did not like the shape of their vulva before a woman told me. Once I discovered that, I was amazed how much ‘modesty’ shown by women was in part nervousness about their vulva not being pretty enough. Since then I have started to notice it and have been sure to make sure they know that every part of them turns me on. There are a few common worries for most women that you should be aware of.
The first thing are the different colors that women have. Most of the textbooks (And a lot of porn too) shows us a lot of white women and typical pink-colored vulvas. Even within Caucasian women this is not always true as many have dark spots around the perineum. Obviously different races have different coloration to the labia and perineum too! The vulva often shows a variety of different colors too and even white women commonly have a brown-colored labia.
These are just some of the many ways that vagina types vary. So the next time you give her a clitoris orgasm, whisper to her how hot all of her body looks and it will definitely reward you in the future!
Female Erogenous Zones
Female Erogenous Zones As a Shortcut to Explosive Orgasms
For most of my teenage years, I thought that I knew everything about female anatomy. In fact I used to brag about it. I knew about an amazing three female erogenous zones: left breast, right breast and vagina. Wow! The strange part was that I was genuinely surprised that she didn’t have prolonged orgasms every time we had sex!
Of course, once I hit my twenties and actually started sleeping with women I quickly realized how wrong I was, there seemed to be countless female erogenous zones. Each woman offered more mysteries, places that brought them to massive orgasm, yet would do nothing for other girls.
Luckily there are a lot of universal female erogenous spots, some of which I knew about in my teens and a large number that I was yet to find out!
Definition of Female Erogenous Spots
For our purposes the definition of an female erogenous zone is a spot that has a dense collection of nerve endings and that touching it leads of an erotic sensation or can make a woman have an orgasm. Yeah I know, it’s a scientific definition! However in this case it does give us some big clues… where is one of the biggest collections of nervous endings? The simple answer is the spinal cord. This is naturally one of the most overlooked zones. Next time you are in any rear-entry/ woman-on-top position, rub your hands up her back. It is a turn-on for most women.
Fancy another one that many people overlook? The armpits. While not all guys are into kissing or licking here, try putting her arms above her head and then rubbing your hands from her arms to her waist. Usually the flesh on the front of your hand is rougher and tends to have a higher chance of giving her the giggles than the back of your hand. The only other problem? Press too hard and watch your foreplay turn into her rolling on the bed laughing.
The other erogenous zones are more commonly known. Within the vagina there are many interconnected spots that give woman orgasms. Clitoral orgasms are the most well known. There are also G-spot orgasms, A-spot orgasms, perineal sponge orgasms, rectouterine pouch orgasms and uterine orgasms.
Not all the commonly stimulated female erogenous areas are around the vagina however. The are many that all men stimulate (Whether they realize their potential or not) such as the breasts (Try circling in slowly with the nipple as the center of the circle), the neck and the lips. Many of these double up as places to have outercourse and oral sex too, so there is no reason why you cannot share the pleasure with her.
Finally there are the female erogenous zones that either do something amazing for her or absolutely nothing. These include the fingertips, toes, thighs and ears.
Touching Female Erogenous Zones
The best part about women is that many of them have far more erogenous zones than just these. Each woman is trually unique and if stimulated correctly almost any part can act as a serious turn-on. A hot, erotic massage can be a great way to learn which ones your woman likes before you have sex. So enjoy discovering every intimate thing about your partner and discover dozens of new ways to give her an orgasm.
Hot Erotic Massage Techniques
Hot Erotic Massage Techniques for Building-up to Great Sex
I remember the first time I gave an hot erotic massage to a woman. I had a woman back at my apartment and I managed to get her to take her top off. I was a lot younger at the time and this was an amazing result! She was a little shy, so she lay on her front. My hands were literally shaking as I touched her bare back and I started to massage her. I kept assuming that soon she would be so turned on that she would jump on me. After 20 minutes (I know!) of this, she calmly got up and I walked her to the train station.
At the time, I asked one of my friends (Who’s knowledge of female sexuality was mind-blowing) to tell me what I did wrong and I had barely got the first couple of lines out before he stopped me, shook his head and said in disbelief,
“What? You didn’t you lick her neck or back or anything?”
My friend changed my life at that point by making a simple point: there is a lot of difference between a pleasant back-rub and a hot erotic massage!
Erotic Massage Techniques
The key thing separating the techniques used in gentle caressing and hot erotic massage techniques are not as different as most would suspect. The most important thing is not necessarily how you do it, but the way you do it. While a well-done massage can focus on that, even a badly-done massage can focus on the erotic part and still be a success.
The first thing is to make sure that you have the right mindset you want to make sure that you are going to give her a hot, erotic massage experience and give her a teasing suggestion/ reminder of what sex with you is like. If you do it right, she already knows that you know how to give her an orgasm.
As the main point is to hint at what you can do sexually, you will want to use many of the same techniques that you would use for other kinds of sex:
- Tease her with the lightest touches, so faint that she can barely feel them.
- Stroke close to an erogenous zone and then air-touch it.
- Touch places that are rich with nerve endings like the spine, armpits, sides of the breasts and neck.
- Touch her breasts or clitoris when she least expects it or by building up to it.
- Slowly circle in on the nipple or labia making as large a circle as possible until she is going crazy in anticipation.
- Give oral sex techniques to places other than her clitoris. Lick her spine or the side of her neck. Suck the flesh on her back. Gentle biting will turn her on too.
The Not Erotic Massage Techniques Section
This section deals with basic massage techniques. If done with skill even a tame massage can easily become a hot, erotic one:
- You will want to select a good oil to massage. As the simple equation of rough hands on soft skin is a major turn-off.
- Calibrate your touch to her (Hint: it is probably a harder touch than you expect!).
- Make sure you mostly touch muscle as pushing on bone hurts!
And that is basically it. Once a woman sees these hot, erotic massage techniques you will soon be having better sex into the bargain too.
Kamasutra Tips
Kamasutra Tips for Orgasm and Great Sex
Whenever the topic of sex comes up (And in most social circles it tends to be one of everyone’s favorite topics!) there is usually one book that has an mythic reputation: the Kamasutra (Also known as the Kamasutraṃ or Kaam Sutra). These days the version that most people recognize has undergone countless changes since its original publication (Between 1600 and 1800 years ago!) However does the Kamasutra still have any relevance or do we have to accept that it is a relic long past its use-by-date?
Kamasutra positions
The writer of the book was an Indian called Mallanaga Vatsyayana, who was supposedly brought-up in a brothel. This unusual childhood probably explains his desire to write down the potential of sex and relationships. The name says it all: ‘Kama’ has a meaning of sensual pleasure and ‘Sutra’ is the thread that binds things together. Therefore that is the key thing to understand: the bind is as important as the sensuality.
Looking for the crazy positions the book is famed for leaves many people disappointed. There is actually only one chapter out of the five that make it up that give kamasutra tips dealing with sex and positions. In fact for a book that has a reputation as being nothing but sex there is actually not that much sex in it! Most of the contents are instead about creating strong marriages and relationships. This may sound different to what you except, however the reality is that the importance of basing great sex as part of a great relationship (The book acknowledges that it is possible to have great ‘casual sex’ relationships and open relationships are completely accepted).
Because of this different-than-expected focus, there are a couple of different versions of the book availiable and these offer varying degrees of usefulness. The older, more traditional ones have more relationship and loving advice, compared to the modern ones that focus more on the sexual side. If you are looking for the positions only it is probably best to get a modern version as some of the older ones left some questions about exactly what was happening in their pictures!
Despite this both books are pretty thorough in their descriptions of sex. Most contain the famous 64 different kinds of sexual acts: which includes kamasutra advice on threesomes, spanking, biting in sex, outercourse and a kamasutra 69 variations. However it is also around this second chapter that its advice for how to make a woman have an orgasm meet with some problems. Take its attitude towards giving good oral sex for example. In amongst the oral sex kamasutra tips are descriptions of 
it being ‘low congress’ and even ‘suitable for dogs (And eunuchs)!’
On top of this the kamasutra is written in an esoteric, old writing style that uses poetic devices to make its points. This can lead to some literal translations that are a bit unusual/ impossible to understand. Therefore it is probably best to extract your own meaning from the text and not dwell too much on the particulars.
Its view of women is also a little dated. Most people will not recognize the world at the time of this book. For example the extensive chapters on the arts that a woman must master (Which includes tattooing, sorcery and knowledge of quarries!). Secondly regardless of your view on polyamory, the harems that are described here are pretty much unheard of in the western world.
Therefore like many sex books before and after it, the kamasutra tips are useful in places and useless in others. What the kamasutra really does well is put the sex advice in the context of an emotionally strong relationship. This is a good reminder that to really have great sex there needs to be both elements present.
Selected KamaSutra Quotes
Advice about different personalities:
A man must observe the behavior of the woman to judge her disposition, and what way she desires to be enjoyed.
(In private) They may speak suggestively of coarse things that are forbidden to mention generally in society
Congress has many types: Loving, leading to subsequent love, artificial love, transferred love, congress in the manner of the eunuchs, deceitful congress and the congression of sudden love.
(If he betrays her emotional trust) After a time, when she thinks that the conciliatory words and actions of her lover have reached their utmost, she should then embrace him, talking to him with harsh and reproachful words, but at the same time showing a loving desire for congress.
The eight forms of fellatio: The nominal congress, Biting the sides, Pressing outside, Pressing inside, Kissing, Rubbing
The sucking of the mango fruit and Swallowing up.
How to Make a Woman Have an Orgasm
How to Make a Woman Have an Orgasm- The Techniques
Ever wondered what the statistics are on women having orgasms? Amazingly they are very low, according to an experiment by the renowned Dr. Dunn around 33% of women have never had an orgasm and only 10% regularly have an orgasm with their partner.
So what is going on? Guys these days are probably more in tune with their sexuality and their woman’s needs than ever before. Men’s magazines, television shows, etc. etc. In fact there is almost too much information out there to digest, so the first thing that you have to do is simplify things.
Having an Orgasm 101
There are countless ways to make a woman have an orgasm:
1. In the vagina and surrounding areas: Most of these orgasms involve either the clitoris or G-spot orgasms. Recently scientists have been suggesting that they are part of the same organ. However as they feel different it is easier to treat them separately.
The clitoris can be found above the labia (The flaps that surround the vagina). You will want to use lubrication before touching, then use a slow, smooth stroking motion.
The G-spot on the other hand is found internally and you will have to reach two fingers inside to stimulate it. The G-spot is not the only spot on the inside of the vagina and you can make a woman have an orgasm by stroking the deep spot or the AFE. It is best to start off concentrating on getting good G-spot stimulating technique first, then working on making a woman have an orgasm via other spots later.
2. Erogenous zones. Women have countless erogenous zones and the amazing thing is each woman has a favorite zone that others may not have! Generally if a woman does not like one kind of touch it is down to one of two reasons: either it does not feel good for her (In which case you should keep the amount of touch to the minimum) or an experience in her past has built an aversion to it (A guy was too rough in the past for example) in which case you can slowly increase the amount of stimulation and she should respond.
Look for zones that feel good for her and let her show you which ones she likes. Most of the time she will try to nudge you into the right place or perform a motion on herself that she wants repeated, so always pay attention to any unusual behaviors. If you want her to show you, it can be a great experience to link hands with her and let her guide you to wherever feels good. This can be a great experience if you want to experiment with outercourse.
Generally women have sensitive spines, lips, breasts/ areola, necks, inner thighs, ears (Try sucking or gentle biting on the earlobes) and abdomen (Be careful if she is worried about her weight). So touch to these areas will turn most women on. However other areas such as the wrists, shoulders, armpits and feet may be huge erotic zones for some women!
3. Verbal Orgasms. Some women can literally be talked into having an orgasm. Try a few different roles and see which ones turn her on (Some get turned on by foreign languages which can be great for bilingual guys). Y0u never know, you could give her an orgasm without even touching her!
Giving Your Woman Her First Orgasm
When it comes to giving her the first orgasm, usually the easiest way to make a woman have an orgasm is to give oral sex, with fingering a close second. Of course machines can help a lot too and a vibrator is a good for her to practice by herself or with you. Once she can have an orgasm reliably with a vibrator making your woman have an orgasm should be no problem.
Female Genital Piercings
How to Have Sex With a Woman with Female Genital Piercings
The History of Genital Piercing
Many people think that Female genital piercings are a new thing. When it comes to sex however there literally is nothing new. These piercings in fact pre-date modern piercing traditions. However the comparative rarity of this kind of pierce (Although they are becoming more common) can make it worrying for guys when they first encounter it. Thanks to a particularly wacky urban myth that has been going around, a lot of guys worry about tearing them off during dry hump grinding or snagging them during outercourse.
How to Guide
The truth is that it is actually pretty difficult to tear off these kinds of piercings, so guys do not have to worry excessively. In fact the position of most female genital piercings make them easy to stimulate and increase her pleasure massively. It gives her extra stimulation and it gives you something to play with during oral sex. These piercings can be kissed and gently pulled to really give her something amazing. On top of that because the feeling of metal-on-skin and skin-on-skin is so different, you can mix these two pleasures. Occasionally touch directly on her skin along with kisses or licks to her genital piercing to give her a great experience! Just make sure not to get too carried away, especially if the piercing is new.
If you do come across a female genital piercing, there a few different kinds that are commonly encountered:
- The vertical clitoral hood piercing. This is by far the most common kind of piercing. In this one the clitoral hood (Not the clitoris) is pierced with the piercing running parallel to the vaginal opening (In this picture of a clitoris the clitoral hood can clearly be seen as a triangle of flesh just above the highlighted clitoris). In this particular piercing a little bit of the metal touches the clitoris, so it gives her lots of stimulation. Therefore grinding your hips in a circular motion will give her a lot of stimulation.
- The horizontal clitoral hood piercing. This may look similar to the vertical clitoral hood piercing (The only difference is the orientation of the piercing), but in fact it has very different rules. This kind of piercing is done principally for aesthetic reasons as opposed to pleasure reasons. Therefore it may actually annoy her if you give it too much attention, especially if it was something she did for her own benefit.
- A clitoris piercing. Amazingly these exist: a female genital piercing right through the clitoris! They are unbelievably rare and probably you will never encounter one. That may be a shame as these piercings give massive increases to the pleasure of every movement.
- The labia. This kind of piercing may be for her benefit (If near the clitoris) or for your benefit (If near the vaginal entry). Do not worry as it will not hurt you and will certainly give you a new experience!
- Fourchette. This female genital piercing is designed to give stimulation to the perineum. I have heard woman say that some positions with the man on top feel strange with this piercing, so make sure that you look out for any discomfort that she shows.
The best thing about all these piercings is that they make sex far better for her and some make it great for you too. Enjoy the different experience.
G-spot Orgasms
G-spot Orgasms
Ever wondered what the ‘g’ in G-spot stands for? The doctor who helped generations of men by identifying (Although only hypothetically) the exact position of the G-spot was named Gräfenberg. So the correct name is the Gräfenberg spot. This was such a mouthful that it soon was abbreviated to the G-spot.
One of the more interesting questions about this spot is whether it is part of the clitoris or not (As the clitoris has a long internal length). This also means that the pleasure point most guys hit during pain-free anal sex is likely part of it too. Most women will tell you that clitoris orgasms and G-spot orgasms feel different, so either way it is worth mastering all the different techniques.
Enjoyment of g-spot stimulation varies dramatically from woman-to-woman. Likewise the exact location of the G-spot can vary slightly. Generally it is found by inserting your fingers into the vagina and stimulating just a little bit above the pubic bone that you find there. If in doubt, just move your fingers around looking for an area that feels different to the surrounding tissue, or look for her response when you hit the right zone!
Stimulating the G-spot 101
One mistake a lot of guys make is using the wrong fingers on their girl. You should always use the index and middle fingers. This is because the other fingers are generally too weak or have the risk that the knuckle bumps into soft tissue (I make an exception for when you want to stimulate the G-spot and anus with one hand). This technique should be done as shown in these pictures:
Initial position of the hand
After insertion, you will now want to work your fingers in a ‘come here’ motion. The finger motion is identical to the one you would use for the squirting/ female ejaculation orgasm (Which also involves G-spot stimulation). You are looking for a small section of tissue that feels a little rougher than the tissue around it.
'Come here' motion start
Finally curl the fingers inwards to make this curling motion pass from the top to the bottom of the G-spot.
The finger curling in for stimulating the G-spot
Once you get the hang of this technique G-spot orgasms should be no problem at all. All you need to do is increase the speed of the finger motion as she comes up to an awesome orgasm.
Some guys suffer from exhaustion doing this technique. There are a few ways to combat this. You can either start off with your weaker hand and transfer to the stronger one as she gets more turned on or practice building up wrist strength using physical training.
G-spot Orgasm Technique and Tips.
Once you have the technique this becomes a hugely useful starting place for getting the squirting orgasm and other advanced orgasms. In addition you may want to give her a G-spot orgasm by itself or mix it with a clitoral orgasm by giving good oral sex while giving her g-spot orgasms. From there you can alternate between G-spot orgasms and clitoral orgasms to prolong orgasm.
Another technique is to start off using your hands and then use your penis to finish off for intense G-spot orgasms. Rear entry and women on top positions are the best for giving her this kind of orgasm.
Clitoris Orgasm
Clitoris Orgasm How to Give One Tonight
The clitoris
The clitoris (Also often abbreviated to ‘clit’ or scientifically to ‘clitoral glans’) is one of the most nerve-rich zones on the woman’s body. Many sex commentators have referred to it as the anatomical equivalent of the penis, however even that may be unfair as the clitoris boasts almost twice as many nerve endings. Many urinologists (Such as Dr O’Connell) believe that the clitoris has an external part (Visible on the picture) and an internal part (Which many believe is the G-spot). Despite the relatedness of these two erogenous zones, the orgasms given from both feel different.
How to Give A Woman a Clitoral Orgasm.
Women vary a little in how much they like their clitoris to be touched. Some really love the sensation and want their guys to spend all the time focusing on the clitoris (I recently came across a girl who did not like G-spot stimulation, only clitoral!), others consider it little more than a warm-up for G-spot orgasms or squirting orgasms.
When touching the clitoris you will want to make sure that you have lubrication or similar on your hands as it is very sensitive. You will also want to calibrate your touch carefully as many women can find the feeling of direct touching to be too intense. If you are giving foreplay to a woman like this, you will have to touch the sides of the clitoris instead. The clitoral hood (The area of flesh just above the clitoris) is also sensitive to touch and can be used. Otherwise you will want to gently massage the clitoris at first as it swells and gets bigger, then rub your fingers up and down it to give her a clitoris orgasm.
Orgasms are a lot easier to achieve if you like to give oral sex. This is simply because your tongue is a bit softer and because of the saliva gives a more lubricated touch. Even so, she may find that direct contact is too much for her and prefer you to lick the sides.
Oral sex has another use and that is that as she comes up to orgasm the clitoris becomes more exposed. Whenever she reaches the peak of an orgasmic wave, you can suck the clitoris and it will cause an immediate powerful reaction from her. Practice mixing the basic licking and sucking to bring her up to a big orgasm. These two sensations are also a good way to start getting a woman excited for a prolonged orgasm.
Giving an Orgasm to a Woman With a Clitoris Piercing.
One of the big surprises for men can be finding that their woman has a clitoral piercing (Especially as it is usually the girls you least expect who have them!). While this makes dry hump grinding a little more risky (Although it does make the missionary position a lot better for her in return), it does give you a lot more options during oral sex. You can gently pull on it or suck it and it will give her a different feeling to the usual lips to flesh sucking.
