Advanced Orgasm Positions and How Less Is More
A Simple Technique to Create Advanced Orgasm Positions
One mistake that I used to make all the time when I was younger, was that I believed that great sex came from the most complicated positions. I used to turn the bedroom into a gymnastics session, trying every position that I could think up, no matter how ridiculous. As you can imagine I quickly learned one thing: advanced orgasm positions are often simple positions with little changes.
Take for example the missionary position, this can be a great position for both of you with a few small changes. Try bringing her legs together and locking your legs around them or opening them wide, both will give you a really different feel. Likewise any change to the angle of her hips in any position can make the difference between good and great orgasm positions.
The ‘Less is More’ Guide to Orgasm
Great sex often comes from doing nothing. Okay so not only nothing, but by mixing doing nothing into your sex life, you will soon discover the possibilities.
Probably the most common mistake that men make is turning sex into a kind of weird contact sport! They have sex like a rabbit with a series of crazed hip thrusts followed by an orgasm. While you may be congratulating yourself on your ‘stamina’, she will probably be thinking that you don’t care for anything other than your ejaculation.
Instead of this scenario, have fun stopping occasionally and watch her reaction. Of course you need to do this at the right time (She will get pretty annoyed if you stop right as she was about to orgasm!), but it is a great way to tease her in a sexy way.
This technique really comes into its own at the beginning of sex. Simply penetrate her and instead of thrusting, simply hold yourself inside her without moving. If you want to really increase the intimacy, you can use this position to gently kiss, stroke or gaze longingly into her eyes. Women love it whenever the guy takes some time out to get really intimate with them. Of course it is also a great opportunity to pull her hair, stroke her clitoris or make her ask you to start if soft and intimate isn’t your thing! Regardless of your style your words can make a huge difference here. This is a good time to whisper things to her. Anything from ‘I love you’ to ‘say you want me to f**k you baby.’
This is a great technique for keeping her on the edge during sex: which is always a good thing. That is the general rule for all kinds of orgasm positions: never be predictable. Once she finds you hard to work out in bed, the mystery is back in your relationship. Trust me when I say that a little mystery is great for all relationships.
How to Orgasm (Girl Sex Secrets)
How to Decrease A Girl’s Orgasm Time
One thing that never ceases to amaze me is how much difference there is between girl’s orgasm times. There is no guaranteed techniques that will give every girl an orgasm in less time, but there are plenty of techniques to that will help you learn how to orgasm girl A, which can also be applied to girl B.
How to Orgasm Girl A!!!
The length of time that you should spend on foreplay depends on what kind of orgasm you are trying to give her and how susceptible she is to that kind of stimulation (Some girls have a body that suits one kind of orgasm more). If you want to give her an intercourse orgasm (Let alone an intercourse, squirting orgasm) you will have to spend a lot more time on foreplay and sex compared to a clitoris orgasm from mutual masturbation. Yet even within these orgasms, the time taken to orgasm varies a lot depending on how turned on she is.
Therefore, if you want to speed up foreplay then you have to make it longer: a lot longer.
Sounds like a contradiction, right? Let me explain…
True Casanovas know that in order to make a woman have great sex with you, you have to start the foreplay long before you get to the bedroom. Once you realize that you can start foreplay anywhere and anytime, you can literally turn the whole day into an extended foreplay session! Start thinking of all the ways to change routine walks into sexual encounters.
- As soon as you meet her take her behind the nearest wall and give her a hard make-out. Then carry on walking as if nothing happened.
- Use chairs and tables to conceal what your hands are doing.
- Buy her a long coat and slide your hands inside it.
The trick is to keep her guessing and by the time you get home your foreplay time will be halved.
Reduce Foreplay Time With Technique
More than anything else (Penis size, looks) technique is the single best determiner of how quickly she will orgasm. Giving good oral sex and mastering your G-spot, deep spot and clitoris fingering techniques can give her an orgasm in under fifteen minutes most sex sessions.
One key factor that is often overlooked is variety. The key is to vary the stimulation early on and keep it more consistent later on (She will need the consistency to orgasm). The early varying of stimulation involves many things but mostly involves changing the speed, pressure and rhythm to keep her constantly guessing, wondering what is about to happen next.
This is the key to spending less time giving her foreplay and more time giving her orgasms. Your goal should always be to reduce time and increase orgasms. Soon you will be amazed at how easily and quickly you can give her multiple orgasms in a session.
Sex Outdoor: How to Have Fun Thrills in Nature
Sex Outdoor: Anytime, Anyplace, Anywhere
“I was on my way home from a nightclub with my (Now ex-) partner. The night out had been amazing: dancing close to each other, stretching the sexual tension and foreplay out the whole evening… The train ride home turned into a crazed make-out session, our hands finding each other through the little clothes that we wore out clubbing. We reached my home station and both of us knew that we couldn’t wait any longer. It was too early in the morning for other commuters, so seconds later we were in the stairway, her large coat offering little disguise to what we were doing…”– MC
Having sex outdoor is a lot more common than most people imagine. According to a TNS poll 57% of Americans have tried it! While the most of these were people in the car, a large number of women admitted a love of having sex in nature. Certainly there are no end of possibilities for the sexually adventurous.
Before we begin there are definitely some codes of etiquette that apply to having sex outside. Don’t do it in any place that children might see and definitely don’t get yourself arrested for indecent exposure!
Outdoor Sex for the Safety-Minded
For those couples that like the fantasy more than the reality (You’ll be amazed just how many crevices sand can be found in!), there are a number of ways to have sex outdoors without risking too much. Tents and large blankets allow couples to get really intimate and appeared in a large number of both couple’s real and fantasy scenarios. Similarly nothing beats sex in a car for safety and to remind you of those teenage days (Especially with a little dress up!). This scenario naturally accounted for a lot of the couples who had sex outside.
For the more adventurous, sex in front of hotel windows gives the illusion of being outside with the privacy of the room. This was also surprisingly common, with many couples having experimented at some time or another. Obviously make sure the windows are strong enough to support whatever position you are using, as there was a case of a woman who plunged from a window when things got a little too heated!
Finally there are the people who enjoyed sex outdoors (This scored the number one female fantasy!). Sex outdoor involves many elements that make good fantasies, especially with the added thrill of being able to hear people walking nearby. It is a good idea to make sure that both of you are dressed in clothes that can easily be put on or taken off as you may need to be able to look inconspicuous at a moment’s notice. Skirts, bikinis and sports pants are great for this.
Once you experiment with this fantasy, you will discover that it is a really good way to get primal with your partner. Have fun turning everywhere into a part of your sexual fantasy and soon your entire day will be a foreplay session.
Female Gushing Orgasms: How to Make Her Ejaculate a Lot
Female Gushing Orgasms: How to Make Her Ejaculate a Lot
Once you have got the hang of female squirting orgasms, then you may wonder if there is anything else to learn: after all isn’t the squirting orgasm the hardest orgasm to give?!? The good news is that there is still plenty to learn. Once you know how to give all the different kinds of orgasm, it is time to make them bigger and better! Once you can make her ejaculate, it is time to make her gush. What is the difference? Let’s put it this way, the female gushing orgasm will require towels… LOTS of towels.
From Squirting to Gushing
The most important thing for her to practice is the Kegel exercise. To recap: a Kegel exercise is performed by squeezing the pelvic floor muscles as if you were trying to stop peeing. Ideally she needs to be able to perform for sets of twenty of this exercise. She will also need to practice pushing outwards, so that when she orgasms she can use these toned muscles to help her ejaculate.
This technique can sometimes feel weird for women as they may believe that it is urine that is being ejaculated (It’s not, it’s a completely different kind of fluid). You will have to do a bit of framing first so that she understands that it is part of the orgasmic process and lets herself go. Once understands the process, she will find having the same orgasm again easier each time.
Female Gushing Ejaculation Orgasm
You can give her a gushing orgasm by both clitoris and G-spot stimulation (Or both together once you master the technique!). The easiest erogenous zone to use for this kind of orgasm is the G-spot. Once you have mastered the G-spot orgasm technique it is easy to use the same method to give her a clitoral gushing orgasm.
For this kind of orgasm, her mood is almost as important as anything that you do: it needs to make her feel relaxed and sexual. She also needs to have enough energy and fluids to gush, so it is a good idea to give her some chocolate and some water (Have fun thinking of ways to introduce these items to your foreplay!).
When you touch her, use plenty of sensuous touching and an extended foreplay session. You will know that have been doing it right when you insert your fingers and her vagina feels engorged to the touch. If you glide your fingers along the roof of her vagina you should feel an area that is a little rougher in texture than the surrounding tissue this area is the G-spot, you should switch your touches to this area. The best technique is to use the middle and ring fingers on the G-spot and the index and little finger on her vulva for support.
As she gets more excited you should increase the amount of stimulation that you give this sensitive area. This could take quite a lot of touching, so you really cannot use too much lubricant while you are trying to do this. The same motion is often called the ‘come here motion’ because it looks similar to the movement you would use to beckon someone forward.
In the beginning your movements should be soft and gentle. As she gets more turned-on, your movements should get faster. As she gets closer to orgasm, you should add some muscular flexes of your bicep. This is the point where she will feel like she is going to pee. This is why it is important that you explained the process correctly earlier. If she releases a clear liquid should be ejaculated and she will feel an intense orgasm. If you got everything right, she should ejaculate a lot of liquid. The amount depends on a lot of factors including your technique, her state and how good her Kegel exercises are. With practice she will really gush a lot, so soon you will have to use towels to soak up some of the fluid or do it in the shower!
3 Reasons Why She Doesn’t Want to Try That Adult Fantasy
Adult Fantasy: How to Get Her Into Everything
Asking your woman to try an adult fantasy can be tough for guys. Men who are completely dominant in most social situations for some reason turn into soft-voiced wimps whenever they ask their girl to do anything other than missionary position. If you ask anything in a quiet, nervous voice, it shows that you lack confidence and, even worse, aren’t the kind of man that she really wants.
Therefore the first thing that you have to work on is your voice. A confident, sexual guy doesn’t mumble or shy off from saying certain words. Instead he communicates directly about sex. It is far better to simply say what you want rather than fumble your way through, as she will respect your directness.
Why Doesn’t She Want to Do This Fantasy with Me?
There are a lot of reasons why she doesn’t want to do a specific fantasy with you. One of the key ones is that you asked the wrong way. Even if it is a fantasy that she really wants to do, asking her in a way that makes her feel like a slut will guarantee she says no. Instead you have to have the belief that nothing she says could possibly make you think any differently about her. This sounds easy, but it is tougher than you think.
Also you need to remember that fantasy sex isn’t just about you: there are two people involved. Any adult fantasy needs to be about both of you. When I tell a lot of people this they look at me in shock, you can almost see their thoughts: wow I didn’t know things like anal sex or bondage could be about both of us. In fact if you are doing any adult fantasy correctly, then it should as good for her as it is for you. For an example pain-free anal sex stimulates a lot of erogenous zones in the vagina and bondage gives a feeling of giving control over to the other person that turns a lot of women on.
Know About What Will Happen in the Fantasy
There is nothing worse for a woman than seeing her guy stumble over something, clearly not know what he is doing: it is just so unmanly. Therefore guys need to do their research. Women are often nervous experimenting with new sex positions and they need to know that their partner knows what he is doing. Any kind of dominant play has certain risks and it is the responsibility of whoever is playing the dominant role to make sure that they remain in control at all times and immediately stop the fantasy if it gets out of hand.
Building up the trust necessary for fantasy play can be built up with great sex. Once she starts having a better orgasm with you, she will realize that you know exactly what you are doing in bed. Once you have this kind of trust, she is much more likely to trust you during adult fantasy play. The key is convincing her that you are not a total beginner, but the smooth, confident guy that she has always dreamed about having in her life.
How to Orgasm Squirt During Intercourse
How to Orgasm/ Squirt During Intercourse
‘What’s the difference between love, true love and showing off? Spitting, slowing and gargling.‘
Yeah I know, it really is one of the oldest sex jokes in the world! But I was thinking that if you made the same joke about guys it would probably read ‘G-spot orgasms, squirting orgasms and a squirting orgasm during penetration.’
When it comes to learning how to orgasm, squirt techniques range from some of the easiest to the hardest to do. Squirting orgasms are unfortunately on the harder end of the scale. This is mostly because they require both of you to know exactly what you are doing. However giving up just because a technique is difficult wouldn’t be any fun, so here I present a complete how to orgasm/ squirt from penetration guide.
Female Ejaculation 101
As I wrote in my previous ‘How to: Female Ejaculation‘ guide, most women find it easier to have a squirting orgasm from their G-spot: orgasms from this region are far more intense, increasing the chance of ejaculation. Therefore the first thing that you need to do is find a position that gives her a lot of stimulation on her G-spot (Hint: rear-entry and side-on positions!) and try some slight variations to get the best stimulation for her. The angles are really important here, so it is usually best to either work this out with a toy or be prepared to have a lot of fun as you constantly change positions to find the spot that gets her going.
Once you find the right angle, you can try for a squirting orgasm. Usually it is best to give her a regular clitoris orgasm first before attempting it, as each orgasm makes the next one easier to have. When you enter her, use whatever position you know really hits her G-spot slowly stroke it with your penis. When you hit exactly the right spot use a smooth, gliding motion with your hips instead of crazed thrusting to keep your penis stroking the erogenous zone. The goal is to keep contact with her G-spot as much as possible, increasing the chance that she will ejaculate.
At this point it also really important that she is relaxed and knows what is about to happen. The sudden rush of fluid shortly before she squirts will feel like she is about to urinate and this can ruin her state: blocking her orgasm. Therefore it is usually best to make sure that you explain the process to her beforehand, so she understands that the feeling is an orgasm, not urination!
When she ejaculates, it usually won’t be as much as a fingering orgasm. The good thing is that each time she has these orgasms, they get easier to have. After a few successes they will come as second nature to her!
Other Techniques for Squirting Orgasms
If this proves tricky to get right on the first time, a lot of people try and ‘double it up’. This means using their fingers on the clitoris and their penis on the G-spot. While this increases the chance that she will squirt, it can be tricky to find the right position to comfortably bring both of you to orgasm.
All these kinds of orgasm fall distinctly into the ‘showing off’ category of sex. Of course, there is nothing wrong with that! Nothing surprises a girl more than learning a completely new thing about her body! Once you have this technique down you can literally give her orgasms that she cannot get anywhere else. How is that for a source of value!!!
A Girl Orgasm Game
The ‘Oral Sex with a Girl’ Orgasm Game
One problem that a lot of guys have is putting too much pressure on their partners. It can sometimes seem to be an all or nothing thing with us guys: unless she orgasms, we don’t feel like it was good enough for her. A lot of guys then take this to an extreme and put her under too much pressure to orgasm, ironically making it that much hard for her to orgasm. Want a guaranteed way to give a woman an orgasm? Turn foreplay into an orgasm game. Almost any game that you enjoyed when you were younger can be fun before sex. I am sure that I don’t need to explain the possibilities that twister offers couples! Likewise squirting each other with water during hot days can be a great way to have some foreplay long before you reach the house. Just keep it fun, enjoyable and adult!
Play some Orgasm Games
Foreplay is usually the best time to play these kind of games. My favorite is the shapes orgasm game during oral sex. Next time you are giving her oral sex try making different shapes and getting her to concentrate on them. This not only give you some new angles and techniques, but it will focus her attention to what you are doing, both of which will help her orgasm.
You can also have some fun with letters. The letter ‘i’ with the dot representing a kiss on the clitoris is one that women love; likewise the letter ‘P’ with the circle at the top representing your tongue arching around the clitoris. Have fun experimenting with other letters. One time I won a holiday for two in a raffle. Instead of telling her where we were going I licked it on her body. Luckily for her the holiday was to Rio de Janeiro. She particularly enjoyed the ‘R’ and the ‘J’!
The Secret to the Orgasmic Game
Orgasm games are great fun for couples if you understand why women like them. A big part of relationships for women is about regression. In other words, people who are in love act in the innocent, carefree way that they did when they were younger. The word ‘game’ immediately accesses this playful side of hers and makes both of you relax and enjoy the process.
Likewise games make a easy way to experiment with any risky fantasies that you may have. After all, it can’t be too weird if it is just part of the game! You never know, make it fun enough and she may just want to keep playing to the end. Providing she comes first, of course…
How to Get to Orgasm Secrets
How to Get to Orgasm Secrets
Sometimes the modern woman has a lot on her mind: she is worried about her job, her relationships, the taxi-driver who was rude to her that morning… sometimes she is able to leave these problems behind during sex, but often they can ruin a good sex session. Wanna know a good sex secret? If you want to learn how to get to orgasm you need to understand more than just your partner’s body, you need to understand her to make love to her mind!
As Mary Roach wrote in her book the Curious Coupling of Sex and Science, women have often found it difficult to orgasm unless they are ‘in the moment’ and not distracted by the numerous pressures of modern life. The author even recommend women spent time focusing on their partner’s every movement as a way to make a ‘significant jump in… how aroused they’d been feeling during sexual encounters’.
One of your goals is to get her so into sex with you that all the things that happened to her that day seem miles away!
Mindfulness During Sex
To help your partner learn how to get to orgasm, you need to first learn how to get her to concentrate. Unfortunately it isn’t as simple as just telling her to focus.
The first technique that you need to master is using words effectively during sex. Many guys remain completely quiet during sex or feel too nervous to say anything, but that needs to be changed. You don’t have to talk to her like the star of a bad 80′s porno, but simply telling her exactly where you are about to touch and how will work just as well. What you are trying to do is build up anticipation. When you finally touch her there you will have her focusing on only that point and the feeling will be a lot better for both of you.
Once she has got used to this, you can get an even bigger response by consistently keeping her guessing. All the best lovers throughout history were renowned for their teases and you can borrow their techniques. Tell her what you are about to do, then once she gets used to you doing it, start teasing her by touching a different place (Sometimes not even an erogenous zone) or tease her by holding back on what she is expecting.
If she likes to close her eyes during sex (Or you want to use a blindfold!) you can add even more sensation by using your voice even after you touch her. Ask her if she can feel you touching somewhere or doing something and make her tell you how good it feels. A lot of guys fail to do this technique properly as they use a weak needy voice as if her validation of you is the only important thing. If this sounds like you then you need to practice making your voice stronger and more confident. You don’t even need to really touch her if you have the right voice. Sometimes just telling her what you are doing without any physical contact is enough.
Varying the Stimulation
Once you have all these techniques down, you can start experimenting by varying the touch for better sex. Gently stroke and caress her and take the touch down to almost a feather-like touch. Then make your touch stronger either for a long time or just temporarily. What you are trying to do is bring her attention to your motions. By constantly varying the stimulation like this her body never gets used to your touch and her attention will be on everything that you do. She will be on edge eagerly anticipating your next move.
Resource: Two Girls Teach Sex DVD
What Can Lesbians Teach Guys About Sex?
There really are a lot of things to learn from our sapphic-sisters, but one of the key things is how to touch other women in the right place at exactly the time she wants it. Even the usually restrained father of the sex movement Alfred Kinsey believed that the feminine touch was “generally the more acceptable.” Sometimes it seems almost like ESP, one woman knowing exactly what her partner needs at each stage.
Wouldn’t it be nice to be able to watch two women together and have them explain exactly what they are doing? Well now you can! Thanks to a new DVD called Two Girls Teach Sex. The women in question are Jessica, Hunter and Shawna: stars of pretty much every porno tucked away under beds.
Who better to take you through the world of sex than the professionals?!? They show you step by step how to touch every intimate part of a woman’s body in a DVD called Two Girls Teach Sex. Now this may sound a little (A lot!) pornographic, but actually it is well done. You will get equally educated and titillated! It also has the benefit that it was just tasteful enough for my girl to agree to watch it with me, which is a definite plus! (Hint: Girls like tastefully done eroticism as much as guys!)
Most of the video deals with the secret techniques that women know about how to pleasure other women. This involves using every part of your body to give her an orgasm. The best part is that you get to watch it all done step-by-step by two beautiful women. No more wondering where exactly to put your hands or what to do with your tongue! The physical side of sex makes up 3 DVDs and deals with squirting orgasms, advanced sex positions and fingering.
The best part is that the second DVD is full of all the extra things that couples can enjoy besides orgasms. This side focuses a lot more on the ‘psychological’ side, dealing with ways to get her to perform all the sexual fantasies that you might think she isn’t into (Hint: She probably is!). There is even some advice on how to seduce and get more women for the single or open-relationship guys out there.
Ever wondered how porn stars learn their orgasm and stamina tricks? Well wonder no longer as the bonus 5th DVD gives you all the tips that porn stars use. Ever wanted to orgasm whenever you like? Or last all night? Or how to really unleash her animal side? Well the answers are all here.
I would recommend these DVDs to pretty much anyone. Being able to see the sex techniques being done makes a huge difference as sometimes there are a lot of small things that have to be gotten right before a woman will orgasm in that position.
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