How to Have Sex For Longer
How to Have Sex For Longer
Having sex for longer requires that both you and your partner get involved and that is the great thing about it! If either one of you tries to be fully in control then there will be limits on how long you can have sex for, but if you both act together then you can perform like the mythical heroes of ancient books and literally make love all night and strengthen your relationship into the bargain.
Sex all night for the man
The man has a couple of problems for having sex for a long time. The biggest of which is that it is easy to orgasm too early and turn an all night session into a 5 minute session! While many guys think that copious masturbation is the cure, this is not the best idea. When you masturbate excessively before sex you are not actually learning control, but simply desensitizing your penis. If you feel that it does help, a compromise is to masturbate with a fleshlight or similar item as these things will give you the feeling of sex without desensitizing yourself too much.
On the other hand it is usually better to learn trigger control. Although there can be quite a lot to it, basically ‘trigger control’ is achieved by recognizing when you about to orgasm and doing something to prevent you ejaculating. If you are going for an all night session, then it is easiest to make periods when you focus just on yourself and periods when you focus only on her. As you get closer to orgasm, you will want to switch attention solely onto her.
Another way is to have a male multiple orgasm. There are numerous ways to have these orgasms, but the main one is by mastering Kegel exercises and then using the muscular contractions to ‘squeeze through’ the orgasm. This will take a lot of practice and expect to fail a number of times, but if you do it right, it will dramatically increase the amount of time that you have sex for.
Longer Sex For Her
Women have a different role to men, but one that is no less important. One of the key roles is making sure that he doesn’t orgasm too early by talking to him, sometimes this can involve telling him not to come yet. You will also need to control his thrusting, guiding him away from the orgasm by limiting his thrusts at key points. Communication is the key thing as it is easy for him to rest at the wrong time, ruining your orgasm or take his foot off the accelerator right when you want him to go further.
Some women also like to take a more active role, by clutching his penis and even preventing him from orgasming. This technique should be done accepting an element of risk as it can sometimes cause injuries to the man. I personally don’t recommend it.
Sex All Night
Having sex for long periods of time is great for couples as the two of you have to work together to make sure that you have the best time together. Only with great communication can the two you have great sex for as long as you like and that is one of the benefits of this kind of sex: both physical and emotional togetherness.
What was the Sexiest Body to Women
What is the Best Body for Sex?
Have a look at the picture above. The image is of a good looking man and woman together. Probably after you have got past the woman’s awesome body (I can wait… If you are anything like me it probably took a while!) you noticed that the guy was the typical handsome, muscular model type. One common belief that a lot of men have is that women would like a toned, ripped body. This is a constant image sent by Hollywood, that tanned and absurdly muscled is sexy.
Best Body for Sex
Amazingly there are scientists trying to find the best possible body for sex. The hero has to be Dr Harrison Pope and his studies on men and women’s tastes. To summarize quickly, he offered both men and women the chance to alter an image of a man by making him fatter or more muscular and try to find the build that most women would find attractive in a partner. There were ten levels to both muscularity and flabbiness. The maximum level of muscularity indicating Terminator-era Arnie levels of buffness and the maximum level of fat being Jack Black levels of porkiness.
How to Look Good Naked
No surprises that the guys got a little carried away. Perhaps inspired by the perfect physiques of the guy-centered Hollywood movies that they liked to watch, they were soon packing the muscles on their ideal body. On average the results showed that men added 28 pounds (13 kg) of extra muscle to their images.
The problem with a lot of these Hollywood movies is that they are designed to appeal to men. The average market for most Hollywood action films is 18-30 year old males, not females. When women were given the choice their pick was closer to the one that the men had selected as representing an average guy, the women preferred only a little extra muscle.
The only guys to get close to this image were from Asian countries, who not only picked less ridiculously proportioned bodies, but also were more likely to think that the ideal body shape was closer to themselves.
Best Body for Sex
Good advice for all us budding Casanovas. While I won’t lie to you and say being healthy and having some extra muscle won’t increase your chances with women, there is no need to lock yourself in the gymnasium with the barbells and weights if you want to attract women.
Rough, Risky Sex Advice for Couples
Rough Sex and Risky Sex- A Guide for Couples
Women’s opinions on rough sex/ risky sex can vary massively. While most guys assume that women would never be into it, in fact there are a surprisingly large number who secretly enjoy it as part of their sex fantasies. A recent sex survey of women in FHM magazine revealed that one of the sexiest movie sex scenes was Michael Douglas’ rough, clothes tearing sex scene with Jeanne Tripplehorn in Basic Instinct. Despite this there are, of course, a pretty large amount who aren’t into it at all. This article will explain exactly what it means to have risky sex/ rough sex and let you decide whether to add it to your sex life or not.
What is Rough Sex?
Firstly a few definitions, rough sex involves two elements which explain why not all women are into it. The first is that there has to be a more extreme feeling about it. In the bedroom, this means squeezing instead of stroking, scratching instead of caressing and biting instead of sucking. Depending on the couple involved there may be other elements involved, many have dominance play elements, where one partner uses rough motions to dominate the other; some couples even go further than that and add an element of humiliation, humiliation sounds worse than it actually is, but invariably involves one partner being ‘forced’ to do something. On the further extreme are kidnap and rape fantasies. These can be enjoyed, however it has to be a fantasy which both of you have full control over (See below).
Rough sex is one of those things that you have to find out if your girl is into or not. If your fantasy only involves a little bit of roughness, chances are that she will have no problem with it. If it involves more than that you will have to ease her into it at her pace, letting her control the interaction. Once both of you have trust in each other then you may want to try this fantasy.
Advice for Having Rougher Sex
Whenever couples do rough or aggressive play there are a few problems that they often encounter. The biggest one is going to an extreme and getting too aggressive. An ex- of mine once described how the guy she was dating before me knocked her unconscious during a sex fantasy! No surprises that she ditched him within a couple of days! Don’t be like this. Both partners need to keep control of their emotions as the borderline between fun fantasy and disturbing experience is thin. This means:
- Couples MUST set safe words. so that they can stop sex whenever they want.
- You should also have a backup plan just in case you can`t say the safe word, for example making a cross with your hands.
- If the safe word is uttered, everything stops immediately and only continues if she asks you to.
- The best system of safe words that I have come across is the traffic light system where you say colors: red meaning stop, yellow meaning slow down and green meaning go, go, go.
- Be careful not to hit her face by mistake or as part of the fantasy, as she won`t thank you if she has to explain to her friends the next day where she got her black eye.
Sex Orgasm Fantasy
As long as both of you are into it, rough sex can be a great way to work off sexual tension and enjoy something different in bed. By making sure that you have some safety nets in place, you shouldn’t be destroying the fantasy, but rather making sure that both of you can define your limits and know that the other will be having a great time. Once you take care of both her mind and her body, she will be able to enjoy having sex with you in ways that you never imagined.
Having an Orgasm at the Same Time
How to Have an Orgasm at the Same Time
While the image of couples having an orgasm at the same time is common in advertising and movies, in reality it is one of the tougher orgasms to reliably give a girl. Not only do you need to work on your control, but you also need to be able to guide her to an orgasm consistently and predict when hers is. The payoff however is great as after you feel the combination of sexual energies that this orgasm gives, you will understand why it is exalted in the Kama Sutra.
Cumming at the Same Time: Intercourse Orgasm Fun
If you want to try and add this orgasm to your repertoire then you will have to master a couple of different skills first, the first of which is to be able to make her orgasm reliably when you want. If you can do this reliably then it will make your part a lot easier, especially as after the first orgasm each subsequent orgasm gets easier for her to have. What you are looking out for are the signs that she is about to orgasm. Just as every poker player has their ‘tell’, so does every woman!
The Guy’s Role In the Orgasm
In this case, the tougher role is yours. Not only do you need to have some control over when she orgasms, but you also need to control when you orgasm too.
Making yourself orgasm whenever you want to requires a bit of practice, but the play-off is massive as it helps with all the advanced sex techniques. What you are trying to do is understand all the levels of your excitation and learn what things cause you to orgasm and what don’t. Most guys have between 2 and 5 trigger images and you should spend some time working out what yours are. Once you find these images, you will be able to use them to push yourself into orgasm at just the right time with her.
Also be sure to keep an eye on your own state. If you are tired, stressed or excited, your orgasm control will be very poor and you may not even be able to orgasm at all! Of course the opposite is true and I’m sure that we have all had days where we thought that we would last a long time, only to orgasm moments later. The key thing to do is to accept that these things happen and not let it upset you, not even the most advanced tantra masters get it right every time!
Orgasming Together for Better Sex
Once you have got the hang of these techniques, simultaneous orgasms will become easy to perform and soon you will start to love the sensation. There is nothing like the extra surge of sexual energy that comes out when you both climax together. Get good at it and you will soon understand why the hero of every movie loves this technique…
How to Have a 3some
Have a 3some Now with Buzzy Master of Threesomes’ Guide
Did you know there are 6 different ways to have a 3some, some of them far easier than others? No? Neither did I, which is why I enjoyed listening to and reading Buzzy: Master of Threesomes’ guide to 3-in-a-bed sex audio tape and ebook. While other guys write their guide with limited experience, Buzzy is one of the masters having had 20 threesomes in his life and even taught the most famous pick-up artist, Brad P, about 3-in-a-bed sex.
Some Basic 3some Tips
One of the easiest ways to have 3some is to know how to get a girl that is willing to take part in the fantasy with you and meet an extra woman for the 3some afterward. Buzzy’s guide takes all the guess work out of this process. He shows the techniques that you can use to meet and attract the kind of women that will want to have 3somes with you or join you and your partner for a threeway. This was a huge draw for me, as whether you are in a relationship or not, you can get some benefit from this product using these techniques. The best part is that these techniques work best if you and your partner are happy together, so the 3some can actually strengthen your relationship rather than risking tearing it apart.
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I Want to Have a 3some, but I am Still Single
No worries. The best part of this package is that because Buzzy is a member of Brad P’s company (Brad P is a world famous pick-up artist), so you get a whole load of free guides to getting women. All of this information comes from Brad P’s 3500 dollar seminars, so you are already saving thousands of dollars. The best part is that even if you have a girlfriend, these techniques will enable the two of you to easily find a third person for the wildest sexual experience of your lives.
The big key is understanding that there are some guys who women will happily have 3somes with and some they will always cross their legs to. If you want to take part in this fantasy you have to be one of the former. In fact it is simple to transform yourself with Buzzy’s step-by-step guide, if only all guys knew that this fantasy lies within their grasp! So many men blow it by acting weirdly when they are about to make it happen. The advice on leading, being dominant and acting like a real man will make all the difference as you quickly discover that once you have remade yourself as a cool guy who knows how to guide her through her ultimate fantasy, 3somes become far easier to have.
If you are really interested in making a 3some happen, this is your chance. A world famous expert has finally released a product based on all his experience that can save you all the trial and error that he went through.
Miss World Sex Tape Tips and Advice: Hiroko Mima/ Anya Ayoung Chee
Advice from the Miss World Sex Tapes for all of us to Have Sex like Hiroko Mima and Anya Ayoung Chee
Ever wonder what it takes to have sex with two Miss Worlds at the same time? Think it’s impossible? Well if you have been watching the recent sex tapes, then you would know that not only is it possible, but you can have crazy sexual adventures with both of them involving a bit of girl-on-girl play and anal sex. Although the second girl (Likely Miss Japan, Hiroko Mima) is currently denying that it is her in the video, it doesn’t really matter as the person in the sex tape is certainly attractive. The question for all the people training to be sex masters is what can we learn from these tapes, so we can have similar levels of success… so that two hot women will want to have these kinds of crazy sex adventures with us?
Miss World Sex Tape Tips
The first thing to notice is that the creator of the tapes is very verbal. Here is an extract from the tape of his girlfriend (Presumably Anya Ayoung Chee) giving him oral sex:
I’m watching her eat your pussy… You know you want her… Why do you want her? Cos you know she wants you.
The key thing to notice is the way that he creates images and seeds the fantasies in her mind. In her highly sexual state, she clearly enjoys the images of exotic sex. For those who are less verbal and more visual, a similar thing can be done using erotic images such as those found on sapphic erotica. If she is willing to enjoy these images, slowly cultivate the fantasy, getting her to imagine being in the fantasy with one of the women in a similar way.
Being Dominant
Throughout the whole fantasy, the man is very dominant and sexual. This is very important too. While women like other qualities for men outside the bedroom, most women prefer their men to be dominant during sex. This is best shown when he talks about ejaculating on his partner’s face:
You know you want me to cum all over your face.
What We Can Learn
A common mistake that a lot of guys make is that they punish their woman for being sexual. At its worst they tell women that squirting orgasms are disgusting and that their sex fantasies are twisted. No prizes for guessing that these are the very guys who rarely enjoy anything other than boring missionary style sex and wonder why their women always fake orgasms. Looking at the tape we can see that the man really rewards the girls for being sexual. As soon as he has orgasmed, he is quick to make her feel good and tell her how sexual she is:
Soooo sexy baby… so hot… I don’t think you even know how hot you look
So there you have it. While these techniques are not a surefire guarantee that you will be bedding two Miss Worlds at the same time, they will help you be better in bed and make her enjoy the sex a lot more. By being verbal, dominant and supporting her communicating sex fantasies to you, you can make sure that no matter what you are into in bed, you have a better chance than ever of enjoying it with her.
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Advanced Cunnilingus Orgasms
Advanced Cunnilingus Orgasms: Oral Sex Techniques for Sexual Ecstasy
Oral sex is one of those things that many people don’t realize the potential of. While many guys and girls are happy with just a cursory couple of licks and sucks, the key to giving advanced cunnilingus orgasms is knowing all the other techniques… you know, the ones that you would never think of, but once you know them they make everything a lot more fun.
Advanced Cunnilingus Tips
In the excitement of getting naked, it is easy to forget that clothes have a lot of erotic potential. While many people just treat them as things to be thrown off as quickly as possible, both of you can have a lot of fun with them. Try kissing and sucking her clitoris through her underwear before jerking them out the way. Once she is used to the feeling of flesh-on-flesh, you can slide her underwear back and give her oral sex again through the layer of cloth. This variation between you touching her bare flesh and her covered up skin will be a great tease that you can keep her turned on with for as long as you like.
Once she is naked, experiment with putting things between your lips and tongue and her clitoris. Anything that is soft or moist (Within reason) will feel great. Wet clothes, silk items and sexy foodstuffs will all drive her wild with excitement. Similarly experimenting with hot and cold things increases blood-flow to the area, making her orgasm all that much stronger when it happens.
The Final Step: Oral Sex Orgasm
As she comes to the first of many cunnilingus orgasms, you can make the experience a lot more intense for her, by mixing the action of your tongue with your fingers and/ or a sex toy. This way you can give her an orgasm from the clitoris and the G-spot at the same time. As these two erogenous zones are connected, the orgasm from both areas will be far more intense for her.
Mixing the lips, tongue and even teeth will also strengthen her orgasm. The lips can be used to vibrate or suck on her clitoris for a stronger orgasm. Similarly you can gently nip at her labia with your teeth- being very careful not to hurt her while mixing these with the movements of your tongue to give her an satisfying oral sex orgasm.
Better Cunnilingus
By mixing these techniques into your oral sex sessions, you can make her a lot more likely to orgasm and extend the sweaty session as long as you like. Oral sex, like any other kind of sex has a lot of variations and types, so have fun learning and trying out everything to find the ones that work best for you and your partner.
A 3some how to guide. Finding a Good Person for the Fantasy
Advice for a 3some: How Finding a Partner is Easier than You Think
So you have finally decided that you and your partner are going to have a 3some. How long you’ve waited doesn’t matter anymore instead, if you are anything like me, images will be going through your head about having two women at the same time (Or watching her with another man, if that is your fantasy). It is only then that you suddenly realize that there is a problem: you don’t know where to begin to find that third person! For a lot of couples this can be a huge source of frustration as you are so close to your ultimate sex fantasy, but fail miserably on the final step.
Finding 3some Partner Techniques
The first option is to use a friend, but that can bring all sorts of person problems into the mix. While it seems nice to be able to imagine sleeping with your partner and her hot friend, the reality is that there are a lot of jealousy issues that need to be taken care of. Probably if her friend is even remotely attractive, your partner will have noticed you checking her out (No matter how subtly you think you did it, she saw it!) and feel protective of you. On top of that you have to factor in the fact that she/ you will see this person socially and so you need to be very clear how involved you want them to be in your relationship and make sure that the person knows that you and her can keep a secret.
Another option is the pick-up community. While it is a community with an extraordinarily large amount of fakes, wannabes and snake-oil salesmen, it is also a community that has some gold in it. Basically according to most theories, the couple have to make themselves appear to be the kind of awesome people that a woman would want to be with and then the woman should tell the woman they are trying to seduce how awesome her partner is. By far and away the best one that I have heard about comes from the world famous seduction expert Brad P’s and his business partner’s guide to 3somes e-book.
The Scene
One of the simplest resources is of course adultfriendfinder. Basically you and your partner create a free account, detailing exactly what the two of you are into (You can hint at it if you are unsure, being a little nervous and unsure can make you more appealing to some partners). One key thing to remember is to state clearly whether you are intending to have a short term thing or a long term thing. There is a huge difference. Some women will want to be part of the relationship and this may not necessarily be something that you want. In that case it is best to state as soon as possible that you only want a casual sex partner.
On the other hand many couples have luck meeting like-minded couples at happening bars and swinging circles. The only problem with this fantasy is that women are in scarce demand at these places. If you do meet any women, they will likely be escorted with a man and you will have to include him in the arrangements (A relatively common scenario is for the two men to watch the women go at it and each man has sex only with his girlfriend). The chances of you being able to steal away his girlfriend for a bit of fun is quite small. Generally the only women that will be up for joining your bedroom fantasy by themselves will be the strippers and madames, who will expect to be paid/ tipped for the service. If however you are looking for a man to join in the fun, you will be able to find one at a party pretty easily, simply ask every man there and soon one will volunteer.
The final idea is to simply advertise in personal columns of newspapers and magazines. This has some risks as there will be a lot of time wasters and if your time is particularly valuable this may not be the best option. If you do decide to do this, you will need to be strict about filtering out people who don`t meet your requirements. This is especially true if you are looking for a MMF threesome as there can be some real danger from some men. Also be careful of anything that sounds too good to be true as it often is.
The 3some: How to Get It
Having a 3some can be one of the most exciting ways to enjoy your sexuality, however finding the partner is part of the difficulty with these things. As a general rule it is a lot harder to find a woman than a man, so if that is your fantasy be prepared to work at it. The reward will definitely be worth all your hard work as you will get to enjoy a fantasy that many people dream about, but few actually achieve.
Couples How to: 3some Tips and Advice
3-In-A-Bed How To: 3some Tips and Techniques
The first question that most guys ask about threesomes is actually the easiest to answer: how to get a girl interested in a 3some? The simple answer is to ask! While lots of books and e-guides have been written on the topic, (The one by Buzzy being by far and away the best) the key thing is to find out whether it is in her fantasies or not. If she likes the fantasy she will probably say so.
Of course, it is not actually all this simple. Many women will try and tell you with their actions, while denying it with their words (Ah, the mystery of women!). Whether it is getting turned on during the girl-girl scenes in movies or selecting movies for the women in them, she may send you big hints in an indirect way (That is actually really direct if you can read between the lines!). For some women actions are louder than words and often reveal her true, hidden desires. There are many reasons for this, but the most common is that women worry about being perceived as slutty and so will not admit verbally to wanting to sleep with women. This image problem can be a minefield that the man will have to navigate. Many women prefer the term girl-girl or even referring to the third person as a ‘toy‘ as opposed to bisexual or lesbian which have heavier images of lifestyle change.
Next Step: Progressing to a 3some Tips
The next step is the progression. Once a woman has decided that she likes the fantasy, the next step is progressing her towards it. This step can be one of the reasons why few guys actually have a threesome as they try to get their partner to have sex with the next woman that they see with disastrous results, Instead you have to ease her into it. Pornography is a logic step, particularly if she orgasms from the images. This can be a risky step as a lot of the pornography is designed to be male-friendly and, guess what, that often means that it is anything but female-friendly!
One of the more accessible site that appeals to both female and male tastes is the site Sapphic Erotica (Click for some hot freebies). The key is that the women are hot, sensual, willing and intimate. Trust me, all those things are important parts of her fantasy. For a more sensual progression, try taking her to a strip club. As long as the place isn’t too sleazy, the women will be beautiful and will happily perform for you and her. Most strippers don`t have any problem giving a woman a lap dance either (Make sure to ask though).
How to: 3some Advice
One thing that confuses a lot of men is that there are actually a number of different kinds of threesome. As well as being divided into MMF (Shorthand for 2 Males and a Female) and FFM (Female, Female, Male) varieties, there are also variations within that. One thing that a lot of guys forget is that women may like the illicit thrill of being naked with another woman, but may not actually want to touch or give oral sex to another woman. Therefore a lot of couples make sure that they have clear rules beforehand about who can do what to whom.
Generally speaking there are a number of different broad categories of threesome:
- Both partners have sex with the third person
- Only one partner has sex with the third person (Man watches the two girls together and doesn’t join in/ Man has sex with each girl in turn).
- Neither has sex with the third person, for example, the third person masturbates while the couple have sex with each other. This is rare, but does happen and falls into the voyeuristic fantasy category.
A lot of guys look for threesome guides. Probably the best one on the market is a DVD made by the ‘Adult Entertainment’ star Shawna Lenee and her pals. As this is a DVD you get the advantage of being able to watch it and see a lot of the techniques being done. It also has the advantage that it is all girl-girl, so can be a useful turn-on for your girl.
Better Oral Sex Techniques
Better Oral Sex Techniques: Advanced Cunnilingus Tips.
Ever run out of things to experiment with during oral sex? No? Well you are in the minority. Whenever I ask guys why they don`t enjoy giving oral sex, the answer is usually the same: because they just find themselves doing the same thing over and over again, without any results. In fact there are lots of things that guys can experiment with during oral sex and the best thing is just trying them will make a huge difference to your sex life. The best part is that all these tips and techniques are easy to do and you can start doing them right away.
Improved Oral Sex 5 Simple Techniques
1. Mixing pressures. First of all try this little experiment. Purse your lips together as hard as you can and rub them against your finger (Make sure that no-one is around as they will probably never let you forget it if they see it!!!!). Next, relax your lips as much as possible and rub them across your finger. What you should feel is a difference in softness and tension. Guess what? She will be able to feel the difference too during cunnilingus. As she comes closer to orgasm, you can add more tension to your lips to push her into an awesome orgasm.
2. Speeds. Learning how to control the speed that you go at is one of the key way for guys to give better oral sex. Most people who complain have a problem with the painful jaws and necks that can come with extended oral session. What they are often doing wrong is increasing the speed until they are moving at an uncomfortable speed. Instead of that, let her build up slowly, increasing the speed of your tongue gradually. It is okay to get her up to a peak of excitement and let her drop, before building her up again. Most women prefer oral sex to come in waves, building the excitement and periodically dropping it, before giving her a huge orgasm.
3. Sucking. Putting her clitoris between your lips and sucking can be a little intense for her if you do it too much, but if you do it a little then it will probably be a new experience for her. Every time you build her up to the point where she is about to climax, pull her clitoris gently between your lips and suck on it. The sudden change from the soft to the hard stimulus should push her over the edge into a harder orgasm.
4. Better Oral Sex with your Hands! During oral sex guys often seem to become so caught up in what their mouths and tongues are doing that they forget about their hands. Oral sex and fingering can be a great combination for her. You can use them to penetrate her and stroke her G-spot as you give her cunnilingus and you can also use them to touch her body. Remember, she has other erogenous zones that you should pay attention to during sex that aren`t between her legs!
5. During oral sex, knowing all her erogenous zones and not just the clitoris will make a big difference. Of course women love the feeling of your tongue on their clitoris, but also many women like to feel tongues on other places too. Whether you lick across her perineum or even do anilingus. There are lots of her erogenous zones waiting to be found.
How to get a Female to Orgasm
During oral sex there are lots of ways to pleasure her that most guys never consider. This is a good thing for you as learning these techniques will really make you stand out. Therefore next time you are alone with her, experiment with these sex techniques and soon you will discover that there is a world of possibilities outside just the lay down and lick techniques that guys usually do.
