The Erotic Touch for Couples
Erotic Touch
When many couples think about intimate touching, they often make a mistake between touching and groping. While there is nothing wrong with groping, it is better to know as much about her body as possible, as each different kind of touch can make huge differences to how turned on she feels.
Sensual Touch
Often really sexy, erotic touch involves little or no body contact at all. Build up the anticipation by seeming to touch them but keeping your fingers about a millimeter away from her body. Keeping this tiny intimate distance you should then ‘touch’ her as normal, including both soft and hard touches inches away from her body. What this does is that it stimulates her body to prepare itself to be touched, firing all her pleasure sensors. When you finally touch her the feeling is a lot more intense thanks to all the teasing and your touch will feel amazing.
Varied and Exciting Erotic Touching
Women’s bodies especially respond to contrasts. If you keep touching her the same way, then she will quickly get used to it and your predictable touch will get a little less enjoyable. Therefore you can ‘trick’ her body to get used to your touch and then suddenly change things up to keep the sexual tension high. Try stroking her body with hard movements, then suddenly making your touch softer. Later on you can do the reverse and suddenly make your movements stronger and harder. Doing this will keep both her body and her mind constantly guessing which is one of the secrets to great sex and is a lot sexier for her.
Erotic Caresses
A really sexy extension of this is to touch the skin around an erogenous zone without touching the erotic area itself. A good example is tracing the shape of her breasts while slowly moving inwards towards the nipple. If you never quite get to her nipple and instead suddenly stop what you are doing, this can be amazingly effective for some women. Eventually you will touch her erogenous zone and the anticipation and teasing will make it feel infinitely better for her.
Couple’s Erotic Touch
Erotic touching is great for couples. Knowing how to touch her body is one 0f the most important skills that you can learn as her body will tingle with erotic energy if you can keep her anxiously anticipating your touch. Once she anticipates your every move you will find that she is a lot more sexual and more erotic all the time which is great for both of you.
Intercourse Positions
Intercourse Positions: How to Have Better Sex by Experimenting with Sex Positions
Once you have mastered the basic intercourse positions it is time to take them to the next level. This is a great time for couples to experiment and really get to know each other’s body.
A good example is the missionary position. Once you understand this sex position, you can start to make it better for both of you. As a general rule closing her legs makes it better for you and opening them makes it better for her. This is far from a golden rule however as many women like the intense clitoral stimulation that they get when you grind your hips against their clitoris when they have their legs together. Similarly depending on your size the legs open positions can be just what she wants or too intense for her. Practice keeping her legs open or closed to open up a whole range of new sex positions.
Sex Positions For Fingering Techniques
When it comes to squirting orgasms and internal orgasms (Generally G-spot orgasms, although there are other kinds) a similar principle applies. Most women find it easier to have a squirting orgasm when their legs are open. This position usually makes things easier for the guy too as their is a little more space inside the vagina to move your fingers.
Because of the difference in feeling between being fingered with her legs open or with her legs closed, you can use this to make it a lot more fun for her by opening and closing her legs as you stroke her G-spot. Most women love this.
Oral Sex Positions.
With oral sex you have a little more choice. If she keeps her legs together, she may find it easier to orgasm as she has a little more muscular control in this position. The problem with this should be pretty clear, as her legs get closer together it gets tougher for you to use your tongue properly. It can be a good idea to put her legs over your shoulder if she likes locking her legs. Similarly giving her oral sex from behind may feel a little strange, but once you get the hang of it better orgasms await.
During sex it is easy for guys to forget about her legs and concentrate on other things. However with a little bit of playing around with leg positions, a whole range of new sex positions opens up. Practice angling her hips in different ways and trying different combinations of leg positions to discover a whole new world of potential orgasm positions.
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Latest Sex Techniques
Ten Latest Sex Things that You Should Be Into
1. Using her clothes as more than just useless items to be cast aside on the way to the fun part.
To really take your time and enjoy sex, practice stripping her slowly, using her clothes to enhance her pleasure. You can gently rub her erogenous zones with her clothes, move it aside and then put it back or even have sex while she is fully clothed for a really different experience. On top of that they make great ways to tie her up or gag her to increase her pleasure.
2. Lube
Yeah we all laughed at that bit in the movie Superbad when the hapless heroes talked about bringing lube on dates. While producing the lube too early in a relationship may be a little creepy, once you have started having regular sex with a woman, lube is for real sex masters. Whether you are doing mutual masturbation, clitoral, squirting orgasms or anal play lube will make all the difference.
3. Using Your Voice During Sex.
Whether barking commands or describing in intimate detail what is about to happen, your voice is one of your secret weapons. Any fantasy can be ten-times more erotic if described in a turned-on voice and she will love it if you can speak to her in a masculine way about the things you are about to do to her in bed.
4. Anal Play
Okay so her ex-boyfriend used to hurt her during anal play, but don`t worry about it. Once you know how to do pain-free anal sex and anilingus, she won`t even be able to remember his name!
5. The Missionary Position
The missionary position is sexy again. How do I know? Because the girls at 2 Girls Teach Sex can’t wait to show you how sexy the missionary position can be.
6. Fore-foreplay.
When it comes to the latest sex ‘technology’, this is one of the best ones. There is a whole world of sexual fun waiting to be had before the foreplay part. Practice turning every second of every date into a sexual adventure for both of you and soon you will discover that great sex doesn’t begin when you get into bed together, it started a lot earlier than that.
7. Advanced Orgasms
Sometimes a simple orgasm is enough for her, but other times it is okay to show off the latest sex techniques that you have mastered. Giving her a squirting orgasm or multiple orgasms will really cement you in her mind as a unique one-of-a-kind guy (Which is definitely a good thing).
8. Keeping her Guessing
Yawn! Most guys are really boring and predictable in bed. She almost knows exactly when you are going to do everything to the nearest second. No surprises for guessing that being deadly dull in bed won`t make her want to have sex with you all the time. Instead keep surprising her, initiate sex when she doesn’t expect it and try new positions and techniques. Above all, break the habit of ‘bit of foreplay, penetration, orgasm’ that almost every guy is into.
9. Be a Real Man In Bed
The real men most definitely need to make themselves known during sex, there really aren’t enough of them around! She definitely doesn’t want a guy who is scared of women and his own sexuality. Time to act like a real man and take part in all her most secret fantasies.
10. Beyond the G-spot.
Sure the clitoris and G-spot can provide literally hours of fun, but now is the time to impress her with what else you know. Her perineum is just waiting to be touched and similarly the labia aren’t just there for decoration. In addition she has a lot more erogenous zones inside than just the G-spot, now is your chance to experiment and amaze her.
squirting orgasms for her
Squirting Orgasm for Her
The squirting orgasm has often been called the ultimate orgasm for women. It can feel so good that women who experience it often recommend it to their friends. If a woman has one of these orgasms, the release is both physical and emotional and a lot different from a regular orgasm. For women that would like to experiment with something new in bed, this is a great option. The only problem is that many women don’t know how to have these orgasms and, even worse, can prevent themselves from ejaculating.
Training for Female Ejaculation
The first part is physical, women have to do is practice the Kegel exercises. These are important as having the muscular strength will make these orgasms a lot easier to have. The other key is that she has to practice pushing out with her Kegel muscles as well as pulling in (Imagine being on the toilet and trying to expel the urine- a lovely image, I know!). She should try and relax. It is easy for her to feel self-conscious at this part.
The Mental Squirting Orgasm
The next part is a bit more tricky, it`s the mental part. You see, many women can prevent themselves from having a squirting orgasm by not relaxing. The ejaculate for the squirting orgasm comes from an area called the skene’s gland. Unfortunately due to its proximity to the bladder, having a squirting orgasm can feel like she is about to pee. A lot of women fail to have a squirting orgasm at this point as they shut down assuming that they are about to urinate when in fact they are about to orgasm. This is just her mind playing tricks on her and, as long as she practices the pushing out and relaxing, she should have no problem orgasming.
Guys will need to guide their partner in the nicest way possible. These orgasms are tougher to have if you doesn’t have good technique, so you should practice the orgasms as much as possible. Also make sure that you use a large amount of lube. Both of these elements are essentials as there is nothing more off-putting for her when she is trying to orgasm than rough hands.
Male Orgasm Control
Male Orgasm Control: How to Control Your Orgasm
Do you masturbate? You can be honest here, as most guys do. Masturbation isn’t necessarily wrong, the problem is that many guys treat it as a useless activity that acts as little more than a stress reliever after a tough day. However masturbation needn’t be completely useless. Done correctly it can actually help your sex life.
The Stages of Controlling Orgasm
If you ever pay attention to your masturbation, then you should feel that your arousal has stages. These vary between an initial, calm stage, all the way up to about to the full-steam-ahead, approaching orgasm stage. The key thing is to learn to recognize what stage you are at and how close you are to the P.N.R. to get a lot more control over your orgasm.
The P.N.R. describes the Point of No Return and represents the moment when there is so much excitement that you will orgasm no matter what. The key thing for guys to do is to be able to get as close to the P.N.R. as possible without orgasming. Once you have done this once, relax and then do it again. If you can do that many times then soon you will have a lot more control over your orgasm. Ideally 9-10 times should be your goal.
Complete Orgasm Control 2: Speeding Up Orgasm
Guys should also try and do the opposite too and learn to accelerate their orgasm too. By doing so they can give themselves control over every aspect of their orgasm. Whenever you masturbate, you should be looking for the images that bring you closer to orgasm. Most guys usually have about 5 or so. These images can then be used to speed up your orgasm and make you orgasm almost at will.
Mastering Your Orgasm
The best thing about these techniques for getting better orgasm control is that they can be done alone and give you great control over orgasms and sex. While of course masturbation is often a solo activity, that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t bring a woman along and have some fun! You also get the added benefit of her learning all about your orgasm and how to tell when you are about to orgasm. This will make sex better for both of you in the long run. Plus she will feel that she wants to return the favor and you can have some mutual masturbation fun.
Sexualizing your Dates
Sexualizing your Dates and Making Them Sexier and Hotter
“Err…. dear… could we… errr…. ummmm… possibly… if it is okay with you…. errrr…. try something different in, erm, bed tonight.” How many times have women heard this from guys? The pathetic, apologetic attempt at getting her aproval for something outside the missionary position (Not that the missionary position can’t be fun!).
Naturally she doesn`t respond well to these kinds of requests. There are a number of reasons for this, one is that you seem nervous and, if the sex idea has any kind of risk she will be worried that it will hurt (Guess what guys, not doing anal sex properly really hurts!) or, even worse, that you will think that she is a ‘slut’ or one of the other myriad names guys who are afraid of women use. So how can guys be more sexual and make women respond?
Being Sexual Early
Usually the problem starts on the very first date. You pick her up at the station, tell her she looks good and then take her to the place where you will have the date. A strange thing happens during the conversation however, the guy often seems to sugar coat one of the key things that makes or breaks a relationship: sex. One of the key problems that men have is not that they aren’t sexual, but that they don`t know how to express their sexuality properly If you are out on a date, it is of course ultimately about sex and people often forget that.
Some guys think that it is a good idea not to go too sexual on the first date (A lot of this will depend on other factors such as when you usually have sex with a woman etc) and, while this is partly true, guys shouldn’t be afraid of their sexuality either. Every guy should work on making jokes about sexual experimentation and having sex with the woman he is with. As long as it is done with charm and humor, women will respond favorably. The key is to keep the vibe fun and sexual, eventually this will translate into a more furfilling sex life as you have shown her how important sex is to you early on.
Having More Sex in Your Relationship
For the guys that already have a relationship, this needn’t mean that you need to feel left out. It is never too late to start being more sexual in your relationship. At first you will want to build the sexual tension. Sexual looks across the table, whisphered fantasies and concealed strokes will all make the vibe a lot more sexual without needing to make any drastic changes to your love life.
The key thing to understand is that no matter what is happening in your life, sex is one area where it is not only accepted, but expected that you should act as manly as possible. While it is not time to strip down to a loin cloth and hunt deer with rocks, it is time to not be ashamed of your sexuality and manliness. Therefore you should not be ashamed to show her how manly and sexual you are both before and during sex. Probably she will respond well as most women respond to a man who acts like a man. After all if she wanted a woman, she’d become a lesbian!
Shape of the Vulva/ Types of Clitoris Guide
Advanced Clitoris Techniques: A Guide to the Shape of the Vulva/ Types of Clitoris
One thing that all guys quickly learn when they first start having sex is that there are many different types of vagina. This can be a source of confusion for guys during these early years as they have to quickly learn that there are many different shapes and dimensions to the vulva and many different types of clitoris. Each of these small changes can have a huge difference to orgasms and sex techniques needed to get her to orgasm.
1. Which way does it bend?
If you believe the medical textbooks then her vagina is completely straight and aligned with his penis, with no kinks in it at all. Luckily most guys know that this is ridiculously oversimplified. In fact her vagina can be angled slightly to the left or right or even vertically. This is one of the reasons that guys should experiment with lots of different missionary-style variants such as the 2-inch deeper missionary position and practice angling their hips slightly to the left or right. The difference can be vast, one of my girls actually found that the difference between a little painful and just right was a half inch angling of my hips to the right!
2. Where is her clitoris?
Some guys will be thinking that this is a joke of the ‘guys can’t find the clitoris’ variety. Don`t worry, it’s not (For a start all the guys I know can find the clitoris quite easily!). Instead it is a reminder that the clitoris can vary a lot from woman to woman. The closer her clitoris is to her vulva, the higher the chances that she will orgasm. Therefore if the distance is relatively large (Longer than the width of your thumb), then you will need to increase the foreplay as she is unlikely to orgasm from penetration alone.
3. The labia
Probably you haven’t thought much about the labia (The flaps of skin that surround the vagina) however guys also know that they have their uses during sex. Pulling gently on them during cunnilingus stimulates her clitoris in a slightly different way. Similarly you may need to be careful not to push them inside her body during penetration as this really hurts.
4. The hood.
Next time you see her naked, especially during oral sex, have a look at her clitoral hood. This is the thin bit of flesh that often covers the top of the clitoris. This piece of flesh can vary a lot. If she has a large hood that covers a lot of the clitoris, it may be tough to stimulate the clitoris properly. In this case it may be necessary to open her legs really wide to expose her clitoris more. If this still doesn’t work then a vibrator will probably be needed such as the hitachi magic wand to give her the orgasm.
Each woman’s vagina is as unique as each woman. By realizing this, guys can make it easier to give her orgasms and tailor each orgasm to her individual body type and that is where you can really give her the types of orgasms that she can only get with you.
