Intimate Sex: What is Intimacy
Beginners Intimate Sex: What is Intimacy?
On this site the one thing that we stress for couples to have intimate sex is that is that the emotional side of sex is as important as the physical side. As the old saying goes it is not important to make love to her body, but also her mind. If you are a little skeptical consider this, women can have orgasms entirely by just thinking about sex. Imagine if you could do that every time, you could give her her first orgasm long before the bedroom!
What Is Intimacy Anyway?
There are a lot of intimate things that guys forget to do during sex. While they are not essential if your goal is sex for the sake of sex, they can make all the difference during love making between loving couples:
1. Hands are Sexy
The most obvious ones are the hands. These two parts of your body may very well be a forgotten erogenous zone. Simply interwining your hands can be a great sign of intimacy. When you are having sex, try putting your hands palm to palm with hers or interlinking your fingers and moving her hands around. For guys that want to add a sexy thrill to the intimacy, try touching her body with your fingers entwined with hers. This gives a nice mixing of intimacy and sexual forwardness.
2. Eye Contact
Studies on eye contact from Clark university have shown how important it is. Even in tests where the subjects were strangers, deep staring into eachothers eyes lead to a sexy increase in intimacy and romantic feelings. Women who admited to believing in love at first sight being especially susceptible (I.e. 90% of the female population!).
Of course you can use this to make things even more sensual during sex. Holding eye contact during sex is one of the most intimate things that couples. What more can I say, if you have anything other than a completely casual relationship: do it!
Having Intimate Sex
While these are just two techniques, it is important to remember that great sex has an element of intimacy. Many couples make the mistake of thinking that giving a woman multiple orgasms or having sex all night takes away from the intimacy. In fact there is nothing more intimate than two people pleasuring each other. Slowly touch and caress her body, use eye-contact and remember those hands and enjoy the sexy increase in pleasure that having intimacy creates.
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Pornography for Women
Pornography for women is one of the things that all men and all women need to watch. Don’t believe me? Apparently it is scientifically proven as studies in the New Scientist journal showed that women were as aroused as men when watching porn. So what is going on? Well this is where the key theme of my site comes up, women have a lot of cultural and social restrictions on their sex life and guys need to understand both the emotional and the physical side of sex. One good way to appreciate both can be to acquaint yourself with female pornography. Pornography for women is massively different to specifically male pornography the movies are different and understanding the differences is the key to understanding her sexually.
What Does Erotica for Females Involve?
One of the key differences between pornography designed for women and the erotic movies aimed at men is that the female ones rely a lot more on context. In male-centered pornography, you can get away with simply showing sex happening for no real reason. Lady-focused erotica doesn’t necessarily need a long, convoluted story, but there is always a context. Women have sex for a reason or as part of a larger erotic scenario. A similar technique can be used by guys inventing sexy stories and surprises to make their sex better.
Who Are the Erotica Directors?
When we talk about porn focused on women, the Tarantinos of this genre are Petra Joy, Candida Royalle, 
Erotica
Obviously all of this should come with a disclaimer, just because pornography is aimed at women doesn’t mean that she will necessarily want to watch it. Culture can play a large factor as watching pornography with sex partners is certainly not a universal. Similarly some women at certain times in their life may prefer more ‘male-centered’ porn (Some men also enjoy women-targeted pornography more, although this is rare). Regardless of whether you actually watch the movies or just use them to be more familiar with one-another, these sexy videos are the key to truly understanding her sexuality.
Low Libido
People who suffer from a low libido often find that it is due to 3 things. Here at completeorgasmguide.com we list the 3 biggest libido killers and what you can do about them.
1. Stress Killing Your Libido.
No prize for guessing that this is the number one killer. Work-related stress is bad, but relationship related stress is a real killer. If the stress is on her part, then she will find it impossible to concentrate on sex as her mind will keep switching to other things. Your job is to keep her mind on sex! Tell her what you are about to do to build up anticipation. Get her to tell you where she wants to be touched and tell you how good it feels when you do.
If the problem is on your side, then it is time to relax yourself. Everyone is different, so find whatever works best for you and do it before you go to bed. Failing that indulge in some sexual fantasy play. A little stressed-out energy may even be good for her.
2. You Have Spent Too Much Time with Her
Some people claim that we have an inbuilt tendency to wander and that after dating someone for a long time, we will naturally start to look for other people. Others claim that over-familiarity and the lack of sexual anticipation are the real killers. Either way it is a simple fact that even the strongest relationships go through periods where the sexual excitement seems to be lost.
The first and most important thing for couples to do is to relax and not get too stressed out about it. It doesn’t mean that the two of you are unsuited. What you have to do is work on getting the mystique back into your sex life. That means that it is okay to keep some secrets (Nothing too risky though!) and surprise her sexually. This unpredictability is precisely what she needs to make her sex life better.
3. Low Self Esteem
While low self esteem seems to be the latest boogeyman waiting to be blamed for anything that goes wrong, it can be a big problem for some people. If you have any thoughts about not being attractive enough or thin enough, then you are on a slippery slope. Obviously low lighting or darkness will help, or, if that is not enough, ask her during sex (In a sexy way, please) to tell you things that she likes about you. You may be amazed at what turns her on. One of my friends asked his girl what turned her on and she told him the unshaven face and gut were actually hot and his girl was a stunner! Just shows that you never know!
Low Libido Advice
These are the three most common problems and most problems can be solved using similar solutions. Just remember to keep her constantly emotionally excited and waiting in anticipation. If the problem is yourself, you may need a pep-up. Try expansite to give your sex life at natural boost. Then check out the links at the right for some sexy tips on how to make it awesome for her and have fun…
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Lesbian Sex Techniques for Men
In sex there are many things that people ‘know’ which are not necesseraly true. One of the famous ones is that guys can learn everything about sex from lesbians. Unfortunately this is largely false.
The first and most obvious thing is that shock, horror you are a man and male-female interactions are very different from female-female interactions. While there are some lesbians who do date in a ‘manly’ way, in general the lesbian community is moving away from this. Guys don’t just need to learn how to have sex they need to also learn how to use their body language and their posture to communicate their manliness to women.
Learning Sex Moves from Pornography
So what about pornography? This is usually the second argument that many men make. Surely we can watch lesbian pornos like sapphic erotica and learn everything about how to touch a woman, right? After all who knows how to touch a woman as well as another woman.
Well, kinda.
This belief is partly true as a lot can be learned such as where her erogenous zones are and how to touch them. There are a few problems however:
- A. You can only see what they are doing on the outside you can’t see how they stroke her G-spot or another other erogenous zones.
- B. There is no explanation of what she is doing. Many things that work in porn movies don’t work in real life.
- C. The talk that women do to other women is not the kind of talk that a man wants to emulate. Women want different things verbally from their guys in bed.
Watching 2 Girls Together
If you want to enjoy watching women together and learn something I recommend the 2 girls teach sex products as offering the best mixture of watching hot women together and improving your sex life. The two hotties in these products take you step-by-step through pleasuring your woman which is something all guys should learn and you also get the no-brainer fun of two incredibly hot porn stars together doing the teaching. Best of both worlds!
What Can Lesbians Teach Straight Men?
While there are sex moves that can be learned from lesbians, guys have to be realistic. This doesn’t mean that with a little bit of experimentation learning from lesbians is not a useful first step in having amazing sex. Plus you will definitely have fun learning sex. Just make sure that you are learning from the right resources!
Sexual Communication
Sexual Communication: Let’s Talk About Sex
Recently couples have been getting better at communicating their feelings. Yep! Even us guys are able to admit that we have them and express them to our partners. Oddly though, many couples have a tendency to not communicate about sexual matters as much as other matters. This is causing their relationships a lot of unnecessary problems.
Starting The Sexual Communication
A lot of this comes from not knowing when to start communicating. It can seem a little creepy to talk about your sex life at the start of the relationship, yet there never seems a good time after that. The key thing about advanced orgasms and great sex is that communication is key, it is a vital part of squirting orgasms and all-night orgasms. Many good sex lives have been ruined because the couple don’t know how to talk frankly about their sex and fantasy life.
Your Sexual Fantasies
For a start you should decide what fantasies you want to make happen. Now is the time to mention any fantasy that turns you on and not worry about your partner’s judgment. If your fantasy is somewhat extreme it may require a little building up to, in this case think of 4 intermediate fantasies each of which will lead closer to your major fantasy.
So what happens if either of you mention a fantasy that is a real turn-off for the other? There are a few choices. Obviously you can do it anyway; however this isn’t always a healthy long term way to do it. A lot of problems can arise from taking part in something either of you don’t feel 100% comfortable with. Trust me on that one! Instead look for elements of the fantasy that you can use in a fantasy you are willing to do.
Examples of Extreme Fantasies
1. Abduction
Lesser Elements: Light bondage, dominance, submission
2. Girl-on-Girl
Watching lesbian porn (Click for some freebies), Using words to describe a woman in the room
3. Three-In-a-Bed Sex
Kissing threeway, Using nude pictures to simulate an extra ‘person’ during sex play
Some people will actually not be able to think of a single fantasy. This is okay, as long as one person has some fantasies then they can try a few things out and see which ones they like and why. If both people have no fantasies then it may be a good idea to make watching erotic movies and similar things part of your sex life and discovering some things that turn you both on. Of course you don`t have to have any wild fantasies, many great relationships have been formed on the basis of two people working together to have better orgasms without any experimentation involved.
Expanzite Review
Expanzite for Male Enhancement
The male enhancement industry can always be a tough one to navigate through. While some of the products are life-savers, others are little more than capsulated snake oil. Therefore before I decided whether to report Expanzite on my site, I decided to test it first and see whether it lived up to its promise to “bring optimal performance with penis enhancement, sexual drive, penis enlargement, and staying power.”
Penis Enhancement AND Enlargement?
Let’s cut a long story short, me and my girl vigorously tested this product and we both agreed that it does exactly what it says on the jar it causes a lot of blood to rush to the penis giving you a more sensitive and harder erection. My erections felt strong enough to hammer through a wall! I can’t honestly say that I observed any long term changes to my penis size, however. While there were some short term thickening from all the blood that rushed in, in the long term it pretty much stayed the same. There are consumer reports of people finding that their penis increased in size when they tried the product for a long time and this wouldn’t surprise me as my experiment was only short term.
Libido Enhancement
The biggest difference was noticed in my libido. With all the extra sensitivity and blood down under it made me feel a lot more sexual and excited. It really feels great to be able to feel every movement that she makes all the more intimately. My girlfriend appreciates it too as she loves it when I am visibly more turned on than usual (Hint to guys: one of the easiest ways to get a girl to do any fantasy is to show her how turned on doing it with her would make you!).
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