sex in relationships
The Role of Sex in Relationships
‘I knew that my relationship was coming to an end when the sex stopped.’ How many times have you heard something like that. Whether we are aware of it or not we all know the importance of sex in relationships. Women associate great sex with being ‘connected’ to a guy. When they don’t have amazing sex with a guy, it can lead to them to rationalize why the sex wasn’t so good. This is big trouble for you as it is quite common for women to believe that the reason sex wasn’t so good with you is because your relationship isn’t exciting for them any more. No prizes for guessing that this relationship is on its way to being doomed.
Keeping Sex Hot In Relationships
While most guys know that women LOVE to be surprised and for unexpected things to happen, not many think about why this is. One of the key components of relationships for women is the emotional side: women LOVE emotion and the guy who can give them this emotion will be the keeper. You may be aware enough to give her this emotion on her birthday with a nice present, you have to also make it happen in the bedroom too for a real spark to the relationship.
Emotional Sex
If you really want to keep the sex amazing in your relationship, then you can add emotion in a number of ways:
Surprise her. As soon as you start to get predictable, she will get bored. Therefore you must introduce surprises into the relationship to keep the sex hot. Occasionally jump on her outside your apartment or caress her erotically in a public place (Use coats or bags to hide what you are doing).
It’s not all about good emotions. A tiny, controlled bit of bad emotion can actually be good for sex, you just have to make sure that it doesn’t turn her off. When you get home telling her about a ‘sexy orgy’ that you had at the office will give her a little jolt (Make sure that it is clear that it didn’t really happen or the effect is lost!) and could lead to the best sex of your life. Similarly whispering something sexy in her ear during a formal occasion may be just what she needs to jump on you afterward.
The Emotional Roller Coaster. In this situation, you mix the emotions giving her multiple emotions over the course of a date. While this can be tricky, intimate stories, movies and places can all be used to give her a range of emotions and keep the date exciting for her.
Relationship Sex
It is easy for guys to make a mistake and get too emotional during sex (Trust me, crying over Bambi or acting like a steroid-pumped idiot will NOT improve your sex life!). However, by seeing sex from her perspective and giving her some emotions along with the physical pleasure will keep sex exciting for her for much longer.
Sex Toy Use
Sex Toy Use and Why Sex Toys will Never Replace You
A common fear that guys often have of sex toy use is similar to the plot of a bad horror movie. In their nightmare, their girlfriend starts to prefer the orgasm that she gets from sex toys to the intimacy of being with her partner, slowly but surely the machine starts to take priority over her boyfriend. Slowly it gets worse and worse until the boyfriend is all but forgotten, replaced instead by the sex toy. Cue evil sounding music… However this kind of plot-line belongs only in a bad movie. As long as you understand sex toy use, they will always be a part of your sex life, not the main course.
Sex Toys In Her Fantasy Life
If you ever watch a woman with a sex toy, chances are she will use it in a very mechanical way. Basically the toy’s purpose is to give her an orgasm and NOTHING ELSE. Unless she has SERIOUS mental problems, the toy is about physical release only and can’t offer her any kind of intimacy or closeness. This is why introducing sex toys into the bedroom is about both of you. She may enjoy the physical release, but she wants to have the other things that she can only get from you: the teasing, the excitement, the emotional connection.
Sex Toy Introduction and Teasing
Therefore when a guy wants to introduce a sex toy into the bedroom, he wants to make sure that he gives her something that she can only get from him. Teasing is a great example, it is VERY unsexy for a woman to try to tease herself (Imagine it for a second and I guarantee it will make you laugh!). Therefore just by adding some teasing and making it clear that you are enjoying driving her wild (Try taking her almost to the point of orgasm and then taking away the stimulation, before bringing it back for example), you are immediately giving her something that she cannot get by herself. Take a second to think of all the things that you can offer her that she can’t get by herself such as dirty talk, teasing and even your sexual vibe and you will soon understand why the sex toy will NEVER replace you!
In fact once you learn to use sex toys effectively, you will soon find that by having more orgasms, she learns to orgasm a lot easier than she did before. This is great news for both of you, as she will begin to understand her body better and have better sex with you as a result. Therefore, as long as you know the correct role of sex toys in your relationship, there should be no reason why your sex life shouldn’t be more like an erotic fantasy than a horror movie.
To read more about sex toys we have a couple of pages to check out: using the hitachi magic wand as a clitoris massager and sex toys for anal sex.
Gushing Orgasms: Giving Her a Squirting Orgasm
Gushing Orgasms: Giving Her a Female Ejaculation and the Best Sex of Her Life.
Great sex is actually a lot easier to achieve than most guys think. While many men get so caught up on all the minute details of giving her a huge orgasm, it is far better to focus on getting all the steps right to give her the orgasm.The best part is that none of these steps are particularly difficult. This is especially true of female ejaculation/ squirting orgasms as the process is a lot more important than all the tiny things that many guys obsess over! This guide explains step-by-step exactly what you should do to give her a female ejaculation/ squirting orgasm and how to make those orgasms bigger and bigger, until she has a gushing orgasm, an orgasm even more awesome than a squirting orgasm.
First Step: Understanding Her Anatomy
Many guys fail at the first step by simply penetrating her and hoping for the best. While you don`t necessarily need to know every single erogenous zone in order to give her a huge orgasm, it helps if you know the ‘big 2′, namely the clitoris and G-spot. To make her ejaculate, you will need to be able to find the G-spot reliably every time, this is because most women move around a lot during sex and if you can’t reliably find her G-spot it is easy to lose it with all the thrashing and moving that accompanies orgasm.
So where exactly is the G-spot? Luckily, except for size and sensitivity it varies little from woman to woman. Have her lie on her back, with her legs comfortably opened. Now gently insert either your index, middle or ring finger. If you curl your finger in a motion like the one you would use to beckon someone forward, you should feel an area where the flesh is a little rougher. This is the G-spot. Now practice taking your fingers out and finding it again. Just make sure that it is done in a teasing, sensual way, as practice is not as hot as teasing!!!
Part 2: Building up to Orgasm
Now that you can reliably find her G-spot you are going to keep stimulating until she has a gushing orgasm. The key to female ejaculation/ squirting orgasms is to constantly stimulate her G-spot. Use a motion similar to the motion you would use to beckon someone forward to repeatedly move the tips of your finger across her G-spot. Sometimes when you are having sex or stimulating her G-spot you may hear a slight squelching sound, a lot of guys don`t understand that this is a good sign, it shows that she is about to orgasm. Once you get that squelching sound, you should start to use more of your arm to really drive your hand faster and make her go crazy.
Final Stage: The Female Ejaculation/ Squirting Orgasm
Once you have mastered these two stages, the rest is up to her. As she comes up to the gushing orgasm, make sure that she relaxes and that she feels sexy. You can do this with your words or actions. Just make sure that she doesn’t ‘switch off’ and block her own orgasm. Now when she orgasms, there should be a little bit of a clear fluid ejaculated. From here you can work on giving her a harder orgasm and a larger, more satisfying ejaculation.
