Bondage Gags: A Complete Guide to Using A Gag in the Bedroom
Understanding Bondage Gags and Their Use in The Bedroom
After a few months together, many couples experiment with tying-up play. While tying-up may feel pretty experimental, it is something that many people are trying these days. As long as it is done for both of your pleasures (Anything that only you like will just annoy her) and is done safely (Be willing to stop if there are any problems) it is a fun way to try something different (On this site, the 10 rules of bondage are written out: either copy these or make up your own). As well as the tying up, gagging is becoming very popular. The thing is that gagging can be a part of your sex life, if you follow some safety rules.
Types of gags
Pretty much anything that can be inserted into a woman`s mouth can be used as a gag. You should just use your imagination, if that is what you and her are both into. Other people like to buy specially manufactured gags such as ball gags or similar, again it is up to you and her and which options you like. I have listed the general categories here, but there are infinite varieties.
1. The ball gag or specially designed bondage gags.
These kinds of gags have the advantage that they are usually designed to be safe and, if used correctly, are probably the safest way to experiment with this fantasy. The problem with these kinds of gags is that it is pretty clear what they are and what they are for and some of the spontaneity is lost! The other thing is that thanks to movies like Pulp Fiction and every pornographic movie ever, woman have got bad associations with these sex toys and may not be too willing to experiment.
2. Clothing gags.
For the ultimate in surprising, spontaneous bondage, the clothing gag is the most useful. The panty gag remains a favorite as they gag effectively and usually leave some material hanging out that can be pulled on to remove the gag quickly. Stockings, suspenders, knee-high socks and bikinis are also very popular for tying up and gagging. Obviously you are better off trying this fantasy when her clothes are somewhat clean as it may not be so sexy if her clothes are dirty. Obviously the usual rules about avoiding getting any faecal matter in her mouth applies to panty gags, so be careful.
3. Wrap around gags.
Usually these are made from towels or strips of cloth and involve a length of cloth wrapped around her head. Many guys also tie a knot in the middle of the cloth and put that in her mouth. These have the advantage that they are easier to breathe and are unlikely to fall into her mouth and choke her.
4. Tape gags.
These gags are the most effective and also the most dangerous as they are difficult to remove quickly. For the safest way to do these gags, use only specialist bondage tape instead of normal tape and don’t tape it multiple times around her head. Even then it is vital that you leave her nose clear, so that she can breathe.
The safest way to use one of these gags is by leaving the corner of her mouth un-taped or loosely taped. This shouldn’t spoil the thrill of gagging her, but gives her another airway just in case her nose gets blocked.
The Rules of Gagging
The first thing that guys have to learn about using a gag is that it carries a genuine choking risk. When a woman is having an orgasm, her gag response (Meaning her ability to cough up something blocking her windpipe) usually shuts off temporarily and this can make gagging her a real risk. With her voice blocked off and possibily her arms tied too, she is literally helpless.
For this reason many guys will remove the gag as she comes to orgasm. Another simple technique is to tie the gag around her head, so only a small amount goes into her mouth: this way there is little risk of enough getting in her mouth to suffocate her. If you do want to stuff something into her mouth, make sure that a small amount is hanging out of her mouth, so that you can pull on this in case of emergency. Likewise you should never block her nose while she is being gagged as this can cause her to pass out or worse. The key is basically to always keep her airway open, so that she can always breathe.
As long as you observe some safety rules, using gags can be a hot way to spice up your sex life and introduce some really exciting fantasies. Use your imagination and the advice above and you will be able to enjoy pushing the boundaries in a great way.
Leg Stroke Foreplay Techniques
Foreplay Techniques Using The Leg Stroke. How These Forgotten Erogenous Zones Can Prove that You Are a Superior Lover
When most people think about erogenous zones, they think about the ‘big 3′ namely the clitoris, nipples and G-spot. Of course, her body is far more complicated than that and guys who want to stand out as amazing lovers can use their knowledge of her many erogenous zones to prove to her that they are a lot better at sex than the average guy. Even for guys that know all about sex the legs are often forgotten. However, for the guys willing to take the time to learn how to touch touch her leg, stroke her thigh and tease her in the right way, it is easy to prove to her that you really know all about sex and are about to give her the time of her life.
How to Touch Her Legs in a Sexy Way
One thing that I stress to all wannabe sex masters is the importance of starting to sexualise the date as quickly as possible. The legs are a great way to do this as they are close enough to her clitoris to be erotic, but can be touched in public. Tracing the rim of her skirt is a great way to do this, especially if you have your hand cupped in such as way that you could lift her skirt up at any second. Obviously you don’t want to actually lift her skirt up in public (Unless you are serious exhibitionists!), but the sexual promise is enough to turn get her excited. Similarly the tableclothes at most restaurants are tailor made for stroking up legs which, when coupled with erotic whispers, is enough to drive her crazy.
The Technique: The Leg Stroke and Caress
In terms of technique there, touching her legs is pretty simple, just make sure you take your time about it. There is a reason why she spends time shaving her legs and it isn’t so that you ignore them! The calfs are a good place to start, but become unexciting pretty quickly as she gets more turned on. At this point her thighs are far more erotic areas.
For most women, the inner thigh is more sensitive than the outer thigh, so you should always move inwards as she gets more turned on. The key is to keep dance closer to her vagina without actually touching her clitoris for more than a short time. As she gets more turned on, trace the outline of her underwear to make the tease even hotter.
Advanced Techniques for Using Her Legs As An Erogenous Zone
Once you have mastered the basics, start introducing some more advanced techniques by varying the strength of touch and giving her kisses and gentle bites as you increase the foreplay. For the really experimental, you can use some lubrication and push her legs together around your penis, to bring yourself to orgasm, just remember to give her an orgasm before or afterwards as their is little stimulation for her in this position!
The Female Ejaculation Process
The Female Ejaculation Process and Squirting Orgasms
Imagine the scene: you are in bed with your girlfriend and you are about to give her a squirting orgasm, when something weird happens. Instead of lying back and enjoying one of the most pleasurable orgasms a woman can have, she looks tense. As you try to increase your hand motion, she grabs your wrist, stopping you from stimulating her. Unsurprisingly, many guys are left confused, wondering what happened. In fact the explanation is simple: they need to think of the female ejaculation process from her perspective.
Female Ejaculation for Women
One of the strange things that women have to deal with are the many taboos about their body in our culture. Whereas some Asian culture celebrate the female form and the orgasm, Western culture seems to view female bodily fluids as something that is weird and unacceptable. Nowhere is this more clear than England, where guys can ejaculate all over women in pornographic movies, yet women ejaculating on camera is actually banned!
Therefore, the first thing that any guy attempting this kind of orgasm needs to do is to let her know that it is okay for her to go crazy and ejaculate. In this case, the way that you talk about her orgasm makes a big difference. You need to convince her that her orgasm will be pleasurable for her and a big turn-on for you too. If she knows that you will get turned-on when she orgasms she will be more likely to let herself go and have a big orgasm.
Female Ejaculation Or Urine?
Let’s be honest here, most women have felt female ejaculation very rarely in their lives, whereas they pee everyday. This explains why women will often mistakenly think that they are about to urinate when they are actually about to ejaculate: they simply have little experience with the feeling of ejaculating. Obviously most women have a strong taboo about urinating and so inhibit their orgasm.
In this case, she needs you to act like a man and lead her through the orgasm. Think of it like a fairground ride, it may be scary at first, but with you there, she is able to relax and let her orgasm happen. Simply tell her when to relax and when to let herself go and she should trust you enough to allow you to guide her.
For women with stronger beliefs, you may simply get her to urinate before sex. The feeling or urinating and the feeling of ejaculating are different enough that she should be able to feel it, if she has urinated recently enough.
Preventing Her Blocking Her Own Orgasm
The final problem is herself. Many women act strangely during the final stages of orgasm and their body often takes over to block the orgasm. She may grab your hand, limiting your motion or curl her body up, making it tough to touch her G-spot. It is easy for the guy to get frustrated her and get upset. However, you shouldn’t! All she is telling you is that the stimulation is too intense. This could be for many reasons and is nothing that you should be concerned about. Usually letting her stop her orgasm and then bringing her back up to orgasm later will get rid of this. It may also mean that she has orgasmed and that she wants you to stop to let her enjoy the experience!
The Female Ejaculation Process
Understanding as much about your partner as possible is the most important thing. In sex, you should try to understand her body, her mind and her thinking. Once you start to think like her, you will be amazed how much easier it becomes to make her orgasm.
Famous Girl on Girl Scenes from Movies
Mainstream movies with hot girl on girl scenes in them.
Ever wonder why 3some is rapidly becoming the most popular male fantasy in the world? Well (Other than the fact it is AWESOME!), we have Hollywood to thank for this! Realizing that just kissing wasn’t enough to get horny young men to go to the cinema, Hollywood realized that making two women kiss was an easy compromise: they could avoid the censors (After all, it is still only kissing) and could get guys to flock to the movie. The best thing is that it is faux-lesbianism presented in the most socially acceptable way.
Girl-on-Girl 3some Tips
Previously I wrote my article about 3somes for guys and explained that one of the keys to getting the girl you are dating to experiment with this fantasy was by presenting girl-on-girl action as being erotic and a fun part of everyone’s sex life. One way to enforce this image is through websites that photograph female-female experimentation in a way that is sexy for both men and women. Check out these examples from the website sapphic erotica, for example. This kind of thing is hot for guys and sensual enough for an open-minded woman to enjoy. The only problem is that these clips only present sex and don’t show the ‘fun part of everyone’s sex life’ part. This is where movies become really useful.
Famous Lesbian Scenes in Mainstream Movies
If you do decide to use movies, it is best to check the movie beforehand. While movies like Basic Instinct may seem like the way to go, Catherine’s (Sharon Stone’s) sexual experimentation is linked to her dangerous, sociopathic sexuality. Therefore this leaves a message that women who are sexually experimental are crazy and homicidal: NOT a good image for your woman!
As a general rule avoid:
- Movies that have ‘evil’ bisexuals
- Movies that show unattractive people having sex (Fantasy is sexy, reality is often not!)
- Movies that have other things going on that she doesn’t like. While most women can appreciate the Monica Bellucci’s awesome body in Irreversible; stay around for the extended graphic rape and violence scenes in the middle and she will probably never have sex with you (Or anyone!!!) again!
Some recommendations For Experimental Lovers:
1. Black Swan. Yeah, I know that this movie gets a bit creepy and horror movie-like at the end, but its portrayal of lesbianism is great. The girl-on-girl sex is presented as a natural part of the average woman’s sexual experimentation done by two hot women. Perfect!
2. Femme Fatale. A must-see for fans of blondes and supermodels (Everyone rushes to the rental store). The only slight drawback is that the girl-on-girl action is actually part of an elaborate diamond heist. Therefore it works as a sexy fantasy scenario, but has a slightly negative representation.
3. GIA. This tale of a supermodel who performs in erotic photos before falling for the woman she poses with is one of the best ones to watch with your girlfriend. These two girls go the whole way together. Not only is the lesbianism presented in a sexy, fantasy-like way, but it includes one of Hollywood’s most gorgeous actresses (Angelina Jolie) and it always helps to make the fantasy hotter for women if there is a woman she admires in it.
4. Mulholland Drive. While you may want to get out of there before the weirdness starts happening in the final 20 minutes of the movie. Until then, there are plenty of scenes that show women just enjoying having sex with other women for the fun of it.
5. Wild Things. Simply put, the holy grail of girl-on-girl scenes. We have the gorgeous Denise Richards taking off her clothes all the time and getting involved with multiple topless make out sessions with everyone’s favorite girl-next-door Neve Campbell. The best part is that all the violent bits are brought about because of greed for money, rather than anything to do with sex.
Honorable Mention: Lost and Delirious. Jessica Pare and Piper Perabo, two of the hottest actresses out there, strip naked and have slow passionate sex. It is great for showing the erotic potential of girl-on-girl, but is presented a little too romantically for some tastes.
Rent Them Now
All of these can be rented from your local movie store or, if you want to cut out the movie and get straight to the sex, can be viewed online at Mr Skin for the price of a DVD rental.
