The Erotic Party and Happening Bars Scene
Experimenting with Erotic Parties/ Happening Bars
Sometimes researching sex for this site is really a great process: I get to find out new positions that make my sex life even more awesome. Other times I find myself in some very unusual places, which stretch my limits as far as possible. When I first heard about the erotic party/ happening bars scene I thought it was going to be the former type, but standing outside in the cold waiting for my partner to turn up I began to feel very nervous. Suddenly the reality of it hit me: I was about to go to a place where I would watch couples having sex and they would be able to watch me! I began to jump around in a vain effort to keep warm and shake off some of the tension. The sudden movement caught the eye of a bouncer and he walked over to me.
“You may as well go. No single guys allowed,” He growled, his eyes staring at me. He was obviously used to having guys hanging around outside the venue and willing to get them to move on if necessary.
Suddenly from out of nowhere my partner arrived laying a perfectly timed kiss on my cheek. The bouncer’s expression totally changed and suddenly he was leading us forward like old friends. The nerves returned, but I knew that I had to take the lead, so I smiled as casually as I could, paid the money and opened the doors.
Inside the Happening Bar
My girl clung to me as we walked in. Already we could hear sex sounds and soon we saw our first girl, naked giving oral sex to two guys. It was a little much for my girl right away and so I checked with her whether she wanted to stay or not (Like all fantasies, as soon as one partner isn’t enjoying it instantly end it). She said that we wanted to stay, so we took a breather to sit in the viewing area.
There were quite a few couples up ahead doing the same thing that we were doing. The first couple smiled at us, not in a sexual way, but in a genuinely friendly way that was quite charming. We had a brief conversation, they were a self-employed couple who had been into the erotic party scene for about a year, they didn’t play with other couples, but had spotted us for first timers. They talked quite openly about the happening bar scene and invited us to an upcoming erotic party they were helping organize.
One thing that I immediately noticed was how normal everyone involved was. Far from the popular portrayal of people in these clubs as being some kind of depraved monsters, they were just regular people. As Alfred Kinsey famously said, ‘the only unnatural sex act is that which you cannot perform.’
Eventually I went with my partner to watch some couples having sex. I assumed that it would be a bit more erotic than it was, viewed at a distance it was little different to watching an adult DVD. My partner enjoyed watching, but ultimately we didn’t want to join in. Instead I waited until later and used elements of the experience to tell her a sensual fantasy when we were alone in bed.
Erotic Party Advice
One piece of advice that I would offer any potential erotic party people is to go there without expecting anything to happen. If you go there with expectations that something will happen you run the risk of ruining the experience. Instead you should just go and have a good time, then if you feel like joining in, you can. Remember the more import thing is the communication between you and her that these experiences bring (Even if it is communicating about not liking it) and the chance to expand your mind.
