Fantasies for Couples
Fantasies for Couples
Like most guys I went through the awful teenage years of not knowing anything about sex. I can still remember the first time I suggested that we try something different from regular missionary style sex with a girl. I was so inexperienced that I honestly expected her to slap me or laugh at me. You can imagine my reaction when she simply said, “Sounds like fun!”
That taught me a valuable lesson about how sexual women really are. One of the keys to great sex is being able to understand both sides of your woman from her sex kitten side to her lady like side and knowing when to bring each of them out. Fantasies are a great time for you to show that you appreciate her sensual, sexy side.
The problem is that although a lot of guys understand more and more about women, a lot of guys don’t know that much about themselves. They may be able to understand that sex is one of the times that men should act in an unforgivably manly way, but strangely a lot of guys lose this attitude when talking about sex.
Whenever the topic of sex fantasies for couples comes up, your woman will be looking for signs as to whether you have done it before or know what you are doing. As much as she wants to explore things sexually with you, she doesn’t want things to go wrong (You think that she is a slut, you hurt her with the rope, are some of the many possibilities). Therefore you have to convince her that she can trust you. That means using a clear voice and speaking with confidence. Trust me, you’ll soon discover that women are as sexual as men, they just want to know that the man is going to be able to carry through with the fantasy! A man who knows exactly what he is doing is infinitely more attractive to a woman than someone who doesn’t have a clue!
Safe Sex Fantasy
If your sex fantasy is anything even slightly risky (Or risque!) then she will need you to show her that you know what you are doing: especially for things like bondage and empowerment fantasies. This may involve practicing things by yourself before hand. I recently read an interview with one of the Two Knotty Boys (World famous bondage experts) where he talked about practicing his rope techniques on chairs and himself first.
In order to ensure that the fantasy is done in the safest way possible, most couples opt for safe words. A safe word can be anything, but obviously don’t make it a word she might accidentally say during the sex play: many good fantasies are ruined by that! She needs to trust you completely, so if the safe word is said at anytime then everything stops immediately. I personally recommend a traffic light system: ‘red’ meaning stop, ‘orange’ meaning slow down, ‘green’ meaning go.
These are the keys to all fantasies for couples: setting one or two minor rules and then having fun. You can even incorporate this into the fantasy and roleplay telling her the rules of what you are about to do. Just have fun and keep it pleasurable for both of you and soon you will find a side of her that you never thought existed.
