Pain Free Anal Sex How to
Anal Sex How to- An Introduction to First Time Anal Orgasm.
Anal sex seems to have got something of a bad reputation. Before engaging it is actually worth checking that it is legal in wherever you live as many places still have laws about whether even mutual couples can engage in it or not! Personally I think that any act engaged in by two consenting people receives approval from me, but there is a ‘however’ attached in the case of anal sex which is that neither partner feels bullied into it. Many people can have issues concerning this kind of sex and these should be taken seriously by both partners!
Whenever I give instructions on giving the anal orgasm, I always amaze people when I tell them that it should feel good for her too. Yep, that is right, it should be good for her AND you!
The anus is actually really rich in nerve ending and feels great if stimulated properly, the problem is that women often have preconceived problems with having an anal orgasm. Primarily these fall into two main types of problems:
- Women having had anal sex with a previous partner who hurt her excessively (Intentionally or not).
- Women who believe that it is wrong (Usually due to social or religious beliefs)
Some women simply will never want to have anal sex and that should be respected. If you have a woman who wants to expert this how to guide is for you and her.
Foreplay Before Penetration
In this anal sex how to, I am going to really stress foreplay. You will need as much or more than you would for vaginal foreplay. On top of that, because the anus doesn’t get wet in the same way as the vagina, you will need to use lots of lubrication at all times. In this case you can rarely use too much.
Start off with a little penetration, usually a finger and let her get used to the feeling. It is a different feeling and she may or may not immediately like it. Take it at her pace. I will usually not do anything other than this for the first couple of times as it is easy to go too fast for her and make it hurt too much. Remember the golden rule: calibrate everything to the woman that you are with!
From there you will want to increase the size of the things that you insert, until she is ready to handle your penis. Usually longer and thinner anal sex toys should follow fingering. Then, to make for pain free anal sex, this should be followed by thicker toys such as a butt plug. If she is really tight, you may need to use the butt plug on a number of different occasions. She does not have to worry about her sphincter muscles becoming too loose as, if she has been doing her Kegel exercises properly, this should be safe.
Word of warning here: make sure that anything you insert has a handle/ wide base or you may find yourself with a difficult story to explain in hospital! I personally only use specially designed toys for this very reason.
If you want to learn exactly what toys to use and in what order, I have included a detailed list of a typical progression in my free mini-course that sets out what I recommend.
For people who are starting out, it is best to have her on all fours, with something supporting her torso. Make sure that you take it slowly and give her a safe word, so she can stop it at any time if it is too uncomfortable.
Anal Orgasm How to
Not many people realize this, but it is possible to have anal orgasms. The most likely explanation for them is that a lot of places (Such as the G-spot and the AFE) are separated by only a thin membrane from the anus. Therefore you should start foreplay on her vagina first in a similar way to the female ejaculation orgasm, focusing on these spots. If she has swelling, that indicate that she is turned-on enough to give her an anal orgasm. Once you get really flashy, an anal squirting orgasm is possible!
