Simultaneous Orgasm How to
Simultaneous Orgasm- How to Have an Orgasm at the Same Time
You know the scene: the hero of the movie finally gets the girl, usually after enduring a manly hardship or two that he brushes off with distain. They begin to have sex, each one amazed at how awesome the other is. After what the segues assure us is a long time, they finally climax at exactly the same time, falling into each others arms.
Despite what movies teach us, the simultaneous orgasm takes a bit of work to do consistently, mostly because it requires the man and the woman to be able to gauge how turned on the other person is. It also requires trigger control by the guy, as the man has to have enough control over his orgasm to be able to ejaculate at the same time as the woman comes. However the rewards are spectacular as all the energy combines itself to really give an orgasmic rush.
So how do you get the kind of trigger control needed for simultaneous orgasm? Certainly Kegel exercises help, especially if you have it to the point where you can have a male multiple orgasm. However there is another technique that is important.
Basically you have to learn rhythm control. This usually involves a bit of masturbation, so I recommend doing it when you have a girlfriend as masturbating a lot without a girlfriend will probably drive you nuts. This is because this technique can take 4 weeks or longer to get. If you do not have a girlfriend, it is fine to do it anyway, just monitor your state carefully to make sure you are not getting too sexually frustrated.
Firstly you have to understand your arousal. When you have sex, there is a point called the PNR (The ‘point of no return’). This is the point where there is no turning back and you ejaculate whether you want to or not (Doing Kegel exercises can give you the ability to have multiple PNRs). What you need to do is find out exactly where that is.
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Understanding your Level of Excitement for Simultaneous Orgasm
When you start masturbating you will want to bring yourself as close to the PNR as you can without going over it. The first couple of times you will probably go over once or twice, do not worry about it just enjoy the orgasm. Any feelings of frustration or failiure will lead to problems later.
Now practice going right up to a level of excitement just beneath your PNR, then letting yourself relax until you go back to the beginning. This is one round, you will want to try and repeat this 10 times in a session. This will give you the control necessary to be able to orgasm whenever you need to.
Now when you have sex, make sure that you keep below your PNR. If you feel you are reaching this point, simply change to oral sex or fingering until you have time to reset. Another great technique is to use hip grinding (Roll your hips in a circular motion over her clitoris as it gives little stimulation to your penis) to calm yourself down.
Now watch carefully as she comes to orgasm and then use a trigger image just as she comes. A trigger image is anything that turns you on and pushes you into an orgasm. This is the part where really knowing your woman becomes all important, as you will want to know exactly the point at which she orgasms so you can have a simultaneous orgasm. Alternatively you may want to give her a prolonged orgasm and then time your ejaculation with her peak. This is the part where the simultaneous orgasm makes her Earth move!
All these techniques are great, but remember not to turn sex into a technique. It should always remain this great experience that the two of you enjoy and constantly try to do little things to make the experience better and better for both of you.
